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writes:me and my boyfriend of 3 years tend to argue and not see each other for a week or 2. i always maintained if any girl comes between us at any time that its over. he`s recently found out through a so called friend of mine that i myself had sex with a guy i used to work with. he reminded me what i had told him and said its over forever. its been over a month without word off him. i go round to his and there is no answer,even though i suspect he`s home. his number is always off. how can i tell him i am sorry and be the soul mates we always was again? i miss him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): He views it as cheating. Some people have feelings. This is possibly the biggest betrayal he`s experienced,being from the one he loves its too much to take. He is avoiding you to avoid more pain. If he avoids you,there is no temptation to fall back into you. He is a person with feelings and his behavior,at least isnt violent or aggressive. Give him time and if you are lucky enough to get back,do not complain when he doesnt trust or questions you. Remember,you caused it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): He is hurt a lot more than you are. You,I take it was okay with what happened until he found out. He finds out,then suddenly you are sorry. Its very likely you have damaged it permanently now. I have no belief that true love has sex with other people. If he came back could you honestly say that it would never happen again if there was no way of him finding out? I think you are either inclined that way or you are not. At this moment,if you want him back,keep well away from casual sex with other people or there is no way of him coming back.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 So you cheated and he found out and he has left you, To many people this act is unforgiving, the thought of the betrayal is just to painful, the thought of you giving yourself to another man can be overwhelming,. Are you really sorry or are you just sorry you got caught? If you are truly sorry and do regret your unfaithfulness than give him time. He will talk to you when he is ready, don't pressure him. Once he is ready to talk than tell him how you feel and that you know you have broken his trust but will work to re-build it every single day. Good Luck hope he give you the time and the opportunity to explain.
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (21 April 2010):
Sounds like you made your bed, now you have to lay in it.
If you were soulmates you would not be in this situation.
He may forgive you in time, but rebuilding trust may be impossible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): You may get back together once he`s calmed down. He may not calm down. People tend to have a different outlook on what happens on a break. His outlook is obviously the same as yours. Whatever next,any trust for you is likely to be zero,and things are unlikely to ever be the same. No need to tell you that sleeping with someone is the unlikeliest way of repairing a relationship. Good luck.
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