My overseas player who never asked me for sex is playing games with me! What is his deal?

A female age 36-40, *am234 writes:

i dnt knw where to start but i heard something about me thats soo not true..here..goes...i use to date a guy back in high school, he was a guy that every girl wanted and i was a girl that every guy wanted anyways we dated and while in high school. i'd hear rumors that he has alot of girls. i confronted him about it but he said the rumours are lies. i was 16 at the time and while we dated he never asked me for sex..because i told him that i would not be sexually active during high school maybe when im 20 or so..because i dnt like the idea of a teenager having sex during that time because im naive at that age therefore, i may do something i may regret..also during the relationship. he called me more than i called him if he never comes and speak to me..i never went up to him and asked him wats going on..i made him do all the hard work..he would sumtimes help me with my school in school.i never went to hs house. and he took me out on dates...and he respected me..basically in high school..i was a challenge anyways during that time i was still hearing hes a playa because he has alot of girls. but i was falling for him because he was not pressuring me for sex he listened to me.he spoke to my sister, he was basically a gentle man...we went dated for about a 1year..anyways we both wanted different things during high school..he wanted to be a lawyer and i wanted to be a psychologist so he moved to america and i moved to the UK to further my studies..before we left he asked me if i'd still speak to him if we lived in different countries. i did not answer because i did not see the point because i think it would just hurt not being near him..anyways a week before i left my country of origin..i texted him telling him im levaing soon..he texted me back saying we should keep in contact..i did not reply..i left the country and came to the UK..while being ere for about 2yrs he would call my friends my sister asking for my number i ignored him from 2005-2007 until in 2007 i caved in and called him because my frends kept on saying well..sam (im female)it seems likehe really like you because he keeps on calling asking for you...even in the morining i was like why though why me..and i was not a easy girl to him..in high school because we dated for about a yr he called me mostly...i only kissed him..and nothing else..so why me..anyways i called him and we spoke and we tried the long distance relationship...when i called him first he'd constantly tell his friends in the back ground while im on the phone that i love this i love this girl..until one day he emailed me and told me he loved..i said ur kidding..and he started to play me songs..on his myspace..and he called me one day and told me he loved me..while his friend was there and hes like to his friend it takes a real gangsta to be inlove and tell a girl so..im like to him ok den i i love you too..that all so we began to speak to for about a month until i just couldnt believe he realy loved me because i just wasnt sure...so asked him why he loved me..he said because i was a challenge and nice girls like that are hard to find..and that he likes me beacsue im fiesty..im wat that sumting good??..anyways we kept on talkin but i was not convinced same way..so i just called it quits..kind of..but my friends told he that well sam i think he really likes you if he didnt why would he spend 2years searching for you plus your not going to sleep with him because they know i would not travel overseas to give me my virginity because that would be stupid..anyways i spoke back to him...so we began speaking again while speaking i noticed..things changed so im like whats happenning how comes your not speaking to so often again..he said baby i love and that all you need to know..and when your ready to come to america just tell me and i will book ur ticket..im like ok den..we didnt speak often n e more..so i just ended it and let it be..but i recently went on his myspace..and i saw a girl we knew in high school was commenting on his page alot..and she said shes going to visit him in summer.she was a girl who i heard he was datng in high school while in high school..i know her so i emailed her and asked some questions..and to my surprise she said she and my ex dated for 1 year and 2mths..and they never broke up..they still spoke while he was in america..and she told me he told her that me and him use to link i was never his girl..im like what you talkin bout i never even had sex in all my life..and im almost 20 yrs..she said thats what he said and that i was a link..and that we use to link and that he said he loved as well..and she was his wifey im like he said the same things to me..so we both realise he played us both but he was a good player because he was doing it from overseas plus he never slept with none of us..although he dated us so damn long...so now im soo pissed off because how dare he tell a lie like that about me..to her..i told her the whole story about how he use to do my home work for me...how he called me loads...how he spent 2yrs trying to get back with me..and thing she siad shes going to ask him about it..im like go ahead..because im i knw i neva slept with him he was teh one who hunted me down plus im still a virgin at 20yrs..so how could i ave slept with him..now he has truned his phone off..im not going to call him to hear what he has to say because hes a lier i just want to cuss him out..but do you think i should...my blood is boiling...because hes a lier...poo me..i want swear at him soo much ..but he has turned his phone..off...im happy that i done nothing more kiss the fool..and i made do my home work and follow behind me like a puppy now..but im upset he lied about me like that when i done nothing...plus he put my picture up on his myspce saying im teh one..and his frends who r girls commented on it saying im well cuet because...im cute as well as smart..and think thats one more thing he said he liked and nwo i think that too was a lie..now all i want ot do is...smash his head in..n cuss him out none..stop..but should i just let it go..since he got nothing or shoudl i confront him..when he turns his fone back on..bacz im pissed imagine...knwing ur a virgin..and he was the one who stalked u..n now hes lying..bwoy..my blood is boiling..and now im believing he ha more girls overseas..who hes playing...as welll..

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