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writes:Why can't other peolpe respect my beliefs? I like to think that people are by nature kind and caring, but if I offer a different opinion then I feel I am shouted down. I don't have the same view-point as everyone, and I believe we are all a product of our genetics and upbringing so why am I *dissed* for not thinking the same way as everybody else?I believe in the saying each to their own and refuse to be bullied into thinking the same way as all the other sheep in society, so why can't people accept that?I am not some stroppy teenager either, I am a 35 year old woman with a HELL OF A LOT of life experience and professional qualifications. But sometimes I just don't get human nature......HELP!
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reader, mystify +, writes (16 February 2006):
 hi,
in this world we are all faced with differing opinions, dont look upon this as a negative thing but more as an exploration , your opinions have opened people up, you are adding to the world , i wouldnt take it personnally , you haveyour opinion for a reason and are intitled to that but other people will always have theres and a differance of opinion or debate can be a healthy way of exploring options and possibilities.
you say you wont be bullied but you are speaking in the tone of a victim , if you are truley secure in your beliefs and opinions then accept that others may question this while still knowing that your opinions and thier opinions are valid in thier own rights.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you martini, I must say after reading some of your answers I agree with you! So maybe we can be abnormal together! I agree with not saying *just* what people want to hear because then I wouldn't be true to myself. So keep on answering those questions! (Big Hugs)
Thank you for your comments Irish although I have to say that my problems have nothing to do with presentation and everything to do with interpretation I think. I DO have an innate need for approval at times, usually from my family more than anyone, but they are not the ones I have the problems with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): You are a person with diverse opinions and thoughts and that's what makes you special. So it's unrealistic to believe you'll make everyone want to agree and respect, all that you say. When stuff like this bother's a person, I sometimes think they many be possessing too much of need for approval from others. If so..don't do that to yourself. Another thing to consider. It could be not so much that your opinion is being disrespected, dear but more on how you are presenting that opinion to others. Perhaps looking at your mannerisms, your body language, your gestures, etc. But what it all comes down to,is if you are convinced that you have good opinions, then always allow yourself to voice them in a nice, mannerly, mature ways. No one should be held hostage to feelings of defeat, lack of confidence, feelings of shame and guilt or the need to gain approval, acceptance and permission from anyone. You are who your are. What matters most is that 'you' respect your opinions and you respect yourself to voice them. Loving yourself first is not about ego, conceit, or selfishness; it is about a true, healthy respect for one's self. So just ignore the negative 'naysayers' and continue having your own thoughts. All I would say, is be aware of timing and presentation. That could be "why" others are not listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): That is the bulk of common society - to be shut-out by our own individual beliefs and thought processing. If you do not baa baa (sheep) follow everyone else, then you are abnormal. Being "normal" means you conform to the most common cause and most common ideal. My gf, complains that I don't talk to her friends, but I told her that her friends are sheep that follow societal trend. They are fake towards each other - eg: meeting up after two months and say, "Hi! How are you?!? Let's have coffee some day!" Then not see each other for another 2 or 3 months, repeat.If you don't conform to that, then you are abnormal.It's just like the rating system here at DearCupid.org. If you look at my column, I have a poor rating, with some excellent ones and a few average ones. Why? Because the majority of people who rate my comments are sheep. They think that if I am not 'nice' and say what they want to hear, I am automatically a weirdo. Of course I am - because I don't conform to popular common belief.Lady Anonymous, you're not alone! [laughs]
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