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writes: I love someone. She is 16 and i m 24, it is an online love, she loves me alot and so do I.Our family find it crazy, especially her dad is against it he told her she can only meet me when she is 18 but her mom is ok with it, plus her dad doesn't let her chat with me when he comes home he watches over her shoulders and force her to shut down the computer and leave.I need help. Shall I leave her and forget her and move on or continue to love her till we get engaged? I cannot leave her, neither forget her so easily, coz i love her too much. Help, please.thanx
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reader, Monk +, writes (1 December 2005):
You sound like you're 24 going on 16. No wonder you two are the perfect match.
Wait two years, then meet her and go from there. In the meantime, write letters and sneak a few e mails here and there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2005): As far as I'm concerned, the situation between you and this teen girl is highly inappropriate. Your behavior is invasive and her behavior is the normal way a sixteen-year-old acts when an older man is seducing her. In my opinion, she's not safe and her Father knows this, full well. He is merely trying protect her. So I would suggest, you step aside here, because this is the time her parents need to step in with an intervention. You have incurred the wrath of her father and I think that to you, a mature older guy of 24-that should be enough clues to stop all contact with her. Sometimes teenager's react to a parent’s rules and guidelines with huge bomb-sized negativity. You do not know what is happening in that household but you can bet your bottom dollar, her Dad is trying to get a situation you've contributed to, under control. Her relationship with her Mom and Dad is about a lifetime connection and deep love, tempered with firmness and ever increasing responsibility. Your relationship with her is about the both of you typing words of your "undying love" to each other, online on the internet. Which relationship, do you think will win out, hands down? Give this some thought and I hope you give up this fantasy of "love". She may be the age of consent but she still is under her father's care and protection. He could get a restraining order protecting the girl from you and remember, judges do not look kindly on home situations that include older boyfriends sniffing around underage teen girls. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): What are you doing with a girl that young? Can't you find someone your own age to date? Of course a 16 year old girl will fall all over herself to think she is attractive to a 24 year old man, but please ! She is still a girl, and you are suppose to be the grown up. When she is 22 and you are 30 the age differences may not matter much, and certain when she is 28, and you are 36 you will be much closer, but she is absolutely too young for you to be spending any time with her. Her father has every right to be upset with you, and with her. Her mother is an idiot. Stay away from this little girl, and find someone your own age. And, if that is a problem, then get some mental health counseling. But, leave the kids alone.
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