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*earatts
writes:My girlfriend/ex girlfriend just lost her mom a week ago. I say ex girlfriend, because she tried to break up with me a day before her mom was admitted to the hospital for pneumonia. That night that her mom was admitted to the hospital she called me up at 3 am and said she just needed someone to talk to. We talked for a few hours and the next day I asked her if she would reconsider breaking up, and she said she would. Well 5 days after that her mom was put into hospice and she passed away a week later. I told her that I'm here for her and she said she knows and thanked me. Since her moms funeral I've been trying to get her to talk to me about things, and she said she needs time alone. I totally understand that and I am respecting it as well as I can. I haven't called her to talk, haven't gone by her house except once, and I keep texting to the minimum. My question is how much space should I give her, and how long does this generally last? I also would like to know if I am in a relationship with her still? All of this has me confused. By the way we were madly in love for the last 6 years, if that makes any difference. Can someone please help me?
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reader, bearatts +, writes (17 March 2012):
bearatts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe was trying to end it, because I was going through a really rough patch the last few months, and I had become kinda needy and whinny. She had been under alot of stress herself, and my needy ness had become a little much for her. She wasn't used to me being so needy, since I was a closed off and a little guarded. I've kinda always have been like that because of my job. I had lost several family members then, and I almost lost my grandpa and my dad in a very short period of time, and my stress and emotions were built up in me so I kinda had to let it all out and be emotional for really the first time in our relationship, and I know I was being a little much for her. Since I've opened up I've felt very vulnerable and needy. Now I just wanna be there for her like she was for me. So, after all that's happened, am I still in a relationship with her? Cuz I'm praying that I am.
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reader, BeckySmith101  +, writes (16 March 2012):
Hunny. you are fine. she is not breaking up with you she just feels like talking to some other people. Its not that she doesn't love you, she loves you so much that she doesn't want to burden you with her problems. I think she is just having a stressful time atm. im not sure how long this lasts, sorry.
Good Luck!
xx
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