My old friend has a wife and child now, but I love him from 10 years ago and want him back now

A female age 51-59, *odi writes:

I have been friends with this man since we were 15yrs old we are both now almost 40. I always knew he was attracted to me, i was also but was always involved with someone else and he was so painfully shy he never tried or said anything. The day before I was to marry he called and told me not to get married to marry him, I thought he was saying that so that I just wouldn't marry my fiance. I married for 10yrs but now My husband and I have been seperated for almost 1 yr and our relationship was awful he was unbeknown to me, mentally ill. My ex didn't allow me to stay friends with any of my friends, male and female,(that's another story) but 3 yrs ago we moved back home and I have slowly have gotten my old life back and more recently my old friends back. Here's the problem I haven't stopped thinking of my male friend ever, I even came back home yrs ago to see him but he was in a serious relationship and I did not tell him that I had been always thinking about him. He has since married this girl and has a 2yr old. We recently have been talking about getting our group of friends together and have started emailing each other, it has gone into territory I had NOT intended or even expected from him. It turned sexual in nature. I put him in the hot seat and asked him how serious he was about this "kidding around" and he said although he has been intrested in me always he would never cheat. I wanted to ask is this just a man's way of saying the right things to get me into bed? I wish in some crazy way he would leave his wife, but I would NOT want to be the cause of that, he has a child and I know how painfull divorce is as I too have a child. but I think I am in love with him painfully so, he emails me day and night except when his wife isn't around, and I am NOT proud of this. Is it possible we were just meant to be? or is this really just as silly as everyone else in the same boat, yeah sure he'll leave his wife, ps we have not done anything! other than emails and I will not, as I have been cheated on with my ex. I would love anyones opinion but especiall;y a mans.

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