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writes:I met this guy through an internet dating site, and we've seen each other 3 times... and had sex. I last saw him last week, and he said he didn't need to go on the site anymore, which I took to mean because he liked me. He said he'd call on Sunday, and rang after he'd left and said the same thing. I've sent a couple of texts, and he texted back, tried calling on Tuesday. Yesterday (Thurs) he phones, asking if I'd tried to call him, I said no, and because he was busy he said he would try and call me later.... still not heard anything. He does have a very high-powered job and is very busy, but I wonder if I'm making excuses for him.I'm out of practice, getting divorced after 24 years, so not sure what to do now, or what not to do. Any advice appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I have to agree with Convent Garden Girl, as the bottom line is it takes 10 seconds to dial a phone and just touch base for a few minutes...he's not 'that' busy! Do not text him. The ball is in his court. If you have to chase, if you have to do the texting and he doesn't call back when he says he will, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you and he loses, bigtime. Some people may suggest he wants to go slow. My take on that is.. if a guy truly likes you, but needs to take things slow, he will let you know that right away. He wouldn't keep you confused and guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away. I suggest you get out there with friends, laugh, date and have a blast and keep telling yourself-you truely deserve a more attentive boyfriend. He's out there...now get going and go find him. Good luck and be happy.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Dating guys after 24 years of marriage, must be very daunting for you. Everybody gives their well meaning advice do this on the date or don't that on a date.
There is really no secret potion to make dating a success, it just that you have to be careful who you can trust. Sleeping with a guy after three dates is not a very wise move, because it does not give you time to get to know the person.... plus you don't know their sexual history or whether a person has a STD. Some people who go on dating sites can be predatory and only want one thing.
Did you really make it clear to your potential partners on your profile, that you was looking for anything long term?
I met my man online and made it CRYSTAL CLEAR, that I was not looking for casual sex and wanted a long term relationship. We have been together for almost nine months and counting. I did go out with a couple of losers, who was only wanting one thing.... so I moved on because I wanted someone better and not wanted to give myself too much. Guys respect women who are willing to make them work hard for that kind of intimacy.
I read story in the News of the World Sunday papers last week, about a woman who was looking for her Mr Right through an online dating agency. She had met so many predators and weirdos on there, before she met her man who is a millionaire (Jammy cow lol)!!!
Anyway she said she once dated a guy she was suspicious of him cheating on her, so what she done she made up a fake profile under a different name and left this guy a message..... To cut a long story short, she agreed to meet him, as her suspicions was right, he was meeting other women too. So she met him at a pub for a drink... revealed that she was his date and poured beer over his head much to the amusement of a cheering crowded pub.
So what I am saying here is, how can you be sure that your relationship is not exclusive? Look give him a text to see if he is ok, if he does not reply within the next few days, then count your losses and move on. In the future be careful who you agree to meet up with, speak to the guy a good few weeks before you take the plunge again. Good luck Hun and let me know how you get on. Dusky xxx.
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reader, dave5678  +, writes (27 June 2008):
Covent Garden Girl just busted all males with "What that means is: oh god, I won't be able to get off this call without promising to phone later. " Anyways if he doesn't think your that important to call even with an 'important' job I don't think he is worth it. Still I always give people the benefit of the doubt and just give him a little bit more time. Maybe you should messaging some contacts you might have already on this online dating site?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 June 2008):
Well he might be very busy, I'm always forgetting to phone people. But I am not dating and I think I'd make more effort if I was.
Why don't you ring him?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Leave it a few days to see if he calls a week and the most, if not text him telling him asking him what you have done wrong why hasent he being in contact.
It may well be that he's busy but you can never be to busy to text as you have breaks at work even a toilet break.
It's either he's avoiding you or he doesnt want to jump in to deep so soon.
Good luck.x
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