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writes: I'm in late 30s and it's been 1 year since I've dated. I am single with one son and he's grown. I met this contractor and it seems that he's playing hard to get or that he's stubborn on calling just to say hi. He's a good-looking man and it's been not only 1 month that we have been seeing each other.I know he's interested but for some reason he is kinda rude in words. I don't know if it's because of him being a boss at the job or if he is like this with women, generally. Maybe a bitter ex-relationship.I'm always polite and considerate and most of all the respect I have for him leads me to say that I grew attached to him. So... does a man take kindness to be the same as weakness in a woman? I will not take rudeness in a man. Even though he says he doesn't mean to, or doesn't realise it.As I continue to be myself, is there any way a man will recognise the action of rude words and correct the way he speaks? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2005): Hi.This man is "good-looking"? Where? Certainly not on the inside by the sounds of it.I am sure you fancy him rotton but what you need to do is get your feet back on the ground and open your eyes. Ask yourself, do you want this man because he is a "bit of rough" and is rude to you? or do you want kindness and respect in return for your own you give to him? Perhaps a night in with a bottle of wine and an open discussion about his intentions wouldn't hurt?Ask him outright. You have a right to respect and your own dignity... and if you are not getting it from your own partner, who can you expect it from?I am a little old fashioned and speak from experience... I have found, to my cost, that an older man - say over the age of 40, cannot change completely, but if the relationship is working and there are a few flaws in it, then it is worth both you sorting out a change - for the better. A good talk, counselling or a big boot... this, however has to be your own decision.Best of luck and sending hugs and hopes for your new man to realise what he should be doing... (((HUGS)))
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