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writes: i need help! im 19....right been with my current boyfriend 3 years hes 19,but we have split up a few times in the last 9 months! whilst we were apart i got with some1 new hes 22... he was evrythink my bf wasnt,everythink iv ever wished 4 infact! he treated me like i was a princess and over a short period of time we grew VERY close and i can honestly say i fell in love with him,,,we were 2gether in all nearly 5 months...but then i started finkin of my ex alot(current bf now)id seen him out with his new gf which really hurt me so i was stupid n cudnt handle him bein with n e 1 else so i finished it with the newer 1 and im bak with my ex,,, anyway i really hurt the newer 1 and he has been begging 4 3 months 4 me 2 go bak him deep down i want to coz i had a easy life with im n i new he loved me and the feelings i had with him id never ever felt b4... my bf im with now dont get me wrong i love him 2 bits and worship the ground he walks on but we are more like bro and sis or a old married couple,,, we constantly hav the same routine and dont hardly have a sex life really, half the time hes nice and got a heart of gold but hes also got a bad temper and dusnt trust me that much, every1 thinks im only holdin on 2 this 1 bcoz we have grown 2 b such gr8 friends and i have got used 2 the lifestyle and he is more of a challange... im just so confused ,,, i no im messing with there heads and i feel really bad but plz give me ur advice xxx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 You have to make up your mind and don't be scared to go out of your comfort zone. Yeah, this guy you're with now is what you know and it can be hard to move away from this but I think you'd even admit yourself that the nicer guy is best for you.
Spend some time on your own and see whether you want either of them. I suspect you are a bit confused and don't really know what you want, but when one of them annoys you, you decide you want the other.
You left the nice guy for your ex so I think you need to think about whether you really do love this nice guy, don't just settle for him because he's nice to you, there are lots of nice guys out there. You also don't want your current bf because you say it's all gone wrong and nobody likes a bad tempered spoilt little brat, do they?
Spend some time alone and decide who, if either of them, is best for you. You may even decide it's neither of them and enjoy being alone or even meet someone new who you have no worries about.
Good luck
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