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writes:well...basciallyI was dating this guy for about 9 months, and it was perfect. I was happy, and head of heels in love.Then, we suddenly started arguin, about the 'future', going to different univerities, he asked for a break, and i couldnt handle it emotionally, i was heartbroken, i broke up with him.For the next 4 months, we spoke everyday, met up all the time, basically acting like we were still together. I still loved him, and really believed that we would work things out. He then told me that he had developed feelings for someone else. Two days later at a party he was with another girl...I was such a state, could'nt stop crying, as i couldn't belive what was happening, but the worst part was all my friends had told me all along to move on, and that he was an idiot...:( He went behind my back,lying, texting, meeting up with this other girl all through the summer whilst we were seeing each other. That night, i hooked up with this guy. He was sucha gentleman, Was really nice to just be a settled relationship. We have been together for 6 months now.Me ex didnt stay with his new girl however, they only lasted for afew weeks. Christmas day he told me that he misses me,gave me a massive apology about how he treated me and that he was sorry for everything....we started texting again ( behind my bfs back, bad i know!) and eventually he said i should break up with my new guy. I did think about it, but then realised that my new guy treats me right, and thats what i needed.However, suddenly now ive began to realise that im not in love with my new guy. Hes amazing, and i am happy with him but...somethings wrong. I think about my ex alot, and we talk alot. ive been such an idiot! please help.
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reader, kizzy  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 well this is really up to you but if i were you which i am not i would move on to the guy that treats you right not the one who goes behind your back with another girl and in the end begans to tell how much he is sorry and accept my apology.seems to me he will do the same thing to you if you take this guy back.well i wish you good luck whatever happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): If you don't love the new guy then its not fair to go out with him. You could still remain friends with him - but you can't continue to pretend that you love him when you don't. It'll hurt him more in the long-run.
However if you find that you do love him really - then keep going out with him and stop texting your ex behind his back.
Its your choice in the end - don't let others pressurise you into making choices. YOU think about it - and what YOU want. Only you know what you really need. x x x
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