A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi since 5 monthes that im with my aktuell boyfriend my ex relationship was a disaster we wanted to married we were together 3 years and he cheat me ... And its was very dificult for me to accept my new boyfriend we meat each other on vacations on my home country and he follow my winning my heart after that was 3 monthes in a long distance relationchip .. he is very jelous because of some friend of me .. and i was a little bit jelous because he has a long list of womans on his past ... After see each other and everything and that hi ask me so much to come to visit him ... i decided to leave everything and move to him (leave country etc ) first i went with him to the hospital because he need to be operated ... we went there and it was everything perfect like always ... then we went travel ... and from one day to another he was sad because we didnt buy the same things in the supermarket ... i was really sad and dissapointed because he was a little far away from me .. and for my it hurst .. he ist strong to me and he said to me .. that he thinks we are to different .. etc etc ... after a lot of fights like that i ask him then why you are with me i leave everything for you because we wanted to form something .. ok i ask him also ... if he take care of my feelings he said no .. but he love me .. i really dont understand ... and of course problem because i can not go with a top in V because he said everybody look at me so i have to change clothes also ...After the shit trip ... because for me was horrible ... we start in his home not so big but not small ... and he start to feel like without space that we dont past that he is lost etc etc 3 days that for me was the hell .. because i didnt know where to go and im not the girl who desorganized everything or make change i was just in a corner ... he didnt touch me nothing after that i talk to him .. because i didnt understand etc .. and ok everything was better after that the place was more smaller because the father was hir with the family ... To explain a little bit of my boyfriend .. his parent are divorced .. with 16 he left home .. after that start to work and since 11 years leaving alone never with a woman and with 18 his mother trought him away also from home she desappear with a younger boy and the father of him already 3 times married ... before he try to suicide and so own .. so no so good past .. is a close person only talk about everything with the father and his best friend ... drink and smoke and drogs only marihuana sometimes ... very perfectionist and lion from sign and very very strong carhacter like me ... im a person yes a little bit strong sometimes but also very emotional... my family is the most important for me i dont smoke never take drogs ... and a little bit religion ... ok but i continuo ... after the time wit the famil i try to be more a woman of the home .. try to cook etc ... its going well and yesterday ... we celebrated 5 monthes i was sick so i was at home and he on the bar like always .. with friends (i know them and i trust him) but somebody call ... i look the number mmm the ex girlfriend .. ok i answer i was really nice yes call him dont worry ... he ist not at home etc .. (notice it was on 23h.) ok i finished she said like ohh he is on vacations .. i said mm no i told you is in the bar he comes later .. im his girlfriend .. and ok .. finish .. 5 minutes after she call again asking who im I where i come from .. where did i meat him etc .. and i explain a little bit (we are since february 2008 with my boy together ... ) ok she told me they never break up ... that he told her i love you again on march ... that thay still speaking .. etc etc that he was no honest etc etc .. i was in SHOCK .. he arrived home i was on the phone .. i told him here the phone your ex girlfriend (that i think she smoke marihuana before because of the voice ald laughing always) and after .. they speak .. he was so angry WITH ME BECAUCE I TAKE HIS PHONE !!! i could not believe what he said to me ... that the girl wanted to come ok the time past it was late in the night ... i was very sad and sick .. because i was with a cold .. that night i make a heart for him because of our 5 monthes ... and we spok i ask him looking at the eyes .. are you cheating me .. (very relax me ) he said no .. and then i ask .. do you have feelings for another person ... he said i only have feelings for you ... and ok verybody knows we are together he said to me thats she knows from before that he is with somebody .. but i know they sms and everything .. i know also he has papers things adress and so own together but mm he said to me like i dont care about her and the love is gone from before you ...I trust him when i saw his eyes but ...WHO SHOULD I BELIEVE ?? AND WHAT KIND I DO ?? ps: sorry for my english is not my mother language ...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 July 2008):
He does not sound like he is good to you. You are very alone in the country with your family and friends so far away.
Perhaps you should move back to your home country for a short while.
If he is on drugs and leaving you alone while he drinks at night then you may be happier without him.
Good Luck!! xx
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