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female
age
30-35,
*omanticsRomantic
writes:There's this guy that i literally just started dating. He's really sweet, and seriously romantic...If he doesn't let up i'm gonna go postal. We went out to a movie less than a week ago, he's texting me constantly, shows up at my work because he says he misses me. Texts me at 1 am to tell me he misses talking to me and he's bored. I've told him to calm down, that he's kinda rushing a little too incredibley fast. He apologizes and starts up again. In the past like 5 days he's showed up at my work 7 times just to see me and nothing else. Nothing i say gets through to him. i need some serious help!! he's a great guy, but he's way too clingy!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Wow it sounds like he fell for you really hard. This is really bad though because you cant keep this up without cracking. You need to tell him that he cannot show up at your work you just need to be straight with him and tell him that although it is very sweet he cannot show at your work place and also that he needs to stop texting so much. Tell him if he keeps this up he will lose you completely. If he doesnt change then am afraid there is only one thing you can do and that is to end it.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Sounds like a "control freak"... RUN!!!!
He'll soon start to ask you who you where talking to on the phone, because he got a "busy" signal when he called.
He's already disrupting you at work, this kind of activity could actually cost you your job. (boss's usually don't like that kind of crap in the workplace)
What's next? You catch him reading your e-mail?
Or how about watching you from his car at night just to make sure your alone and not with someone else.
Time to get away from him before it's too late.
So far, it looks like it's all about him.
He's not respecting you or even giving you any room to breath.
I've know three women this has happened to. None of them broke it off in time. For all three, it ended quite badly.
GET OUT NOW!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Sounds like this guy is 'head over heels' about you. Maybe try to understand this and keep his feelings in mind when talking to him about this since if you handle this in an insensitive way you might hurt him emotionally.I know you said you have spoken to him about this but maybe take him to one side somewhere private where the too of you can speak freely. Explain to him the concept of clingy-ness and how it can be a bit of a turn off for most women (not just you). He is probably just a bit unsure or insecure about how you feel about him at the moment. If he is your age then his feelings for you are probably the first time he has felt this way for somebody. He might just need a bit of re-aasurance that you are interested in him still. If you are interested then let him know but tell him he needs to be less clingy or he will risk pushing you away.If you are not interested then try to let him down gently. By the way, does this guy not have to work himself? If he is bored then he needs to find some hobbies that interest him to keep him occupied.
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