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writes: I have met a guy who seems to put his foot in it all the time. He was married for twenty years and has been divorced two years. His wife left him for a very wealthy man. He said they grew apart. They have two children under 13 and his children adore him. He has good friends and a cloae family. I only see him once or twice a week as he travels with work and has shared custody. I really love the sweet things he does for me but he undoes it all with his clumsiness. When we were on our second date he made a comment about a woman in shorts saying she had the perfect legs and laughed. Another time he showed me a photo in his hallway of his wedding saying its a fantastix picture with the confetti. I was so shocked that was a bigvphoto of him andxhis wife. Yesterday he sent me a photo of a cake wuth 200 candles saying I found your cake on fb. I felt I dont really know him and hes being mean abut my age. Hes seven years younger. He does so many thoughtful kind things and at the same time seems to offend me. Im a sensitive soul. I feel torn
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2016): You have been over looking his immature and inappropriate behaviour for too long. He is not going to change. His comments are unpleasant at times and come at you from nowhere. You can't go on wondering what on earth he is going to say next. There are plenty of nice guys who wont come out with that kind of stuff. Don't waste your life.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 September 2016):
 I think he is clueless, not callous. He is immature, not mean.
And I think there were more reasons than marrying a richer guy. I think your BF is suffering from a severe case of "foot in mouth", CONSTANTLY. And sorry, OP there is no fix for that.
So if you are in your early 40's he is in his mid-30's - which means he is sort of a man-child. I mean really? Does he also make fart jokes?
While I have fairly thick skin and a ver sarcastic sense of humor there are definitely times where my husband totally misses the "point". Like with presents. So I figured a way to deal with that and now he is a million times better. I simply gave him the link to my Amazon account where he can see EXACTLY what I want.
He isn't going to change, so you either START to be frank with him when he hurts your feelings, grow a thicker skin or... find a guy who isn't acting like a 16-year-old.
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