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writes:Im 13 years old.And i never thought that i could hate my own mother.And its not the hate when you get mad its the deep sincere hate that you cant fix.She yells and screams liek she owns me. And ive hated her ever since she left me and my brother almost 5 years ago.The only reason I try to be nice is because my dad cant afford to pay for college and she can. I havent told her i loved her in like two years. and i cant stand it anymore. In a way i want to fix it but i cant. And in a way i dont want to fix it. I dont know what to do anymore. The environment in my house is terrible and im always out with guys who can drive just to avoid her. and when i get back i get yelled at and thats just what i was trying to avoid..i dont even know what to do anymore... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Ok, well I have been through what u hve too. It is great that you are trying to be nice and keep it up! I know it is hard to be nice to someone who has hurt u so much but your mum is probably yelling at you because she doesn't feel secure and the environment u and her are living in probably doesn't help either. I would recommend trying to help out with the house if u don't already, and maybe try and avoid your mum if she's in a bad mood. If u really don't love your mum anymore maybe go to counciling or talk to her about how you feel. Hope I could help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): i have the same propblem and we are nice to each other some times and i realy wish my mum would under stand and what to do is get out of her way for a bit and say hang out with your mates so she can have pece and i am onlyy 11and let her have it her way like iv just hert y toe and my mum med sshors i was ok and i said thankyou but now we have fallen out again
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reader, fishdish +, writes (7 December 2007):
 I disagree with these posts strongly. I think the fact that your mom is changing the way you see yourself, into a hateful person, and the fact that your mom left you at 8 is a traumatizing experience that seriously psychologically messes you up. I think you should go to a school counselor or potentialy a psychologist/therapist (if you can convince your mom you need it} so that you can try to vent all the negative energy out. good luck...it may get easier after your teens.
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reader, Eriden  +, writes (7 December 2007):
hello dear, 13 is a very sensitive age, and i believe your mum is trying to do what every responsible mum should do for their daughters at that age. a u the first born? does she also yell at your brother? being hostile will not resolve the problem! calm down, be alittle bit humble and polite with her. Do the right thing at the right time, there she wont find any reason to yell at you and eventually you will become friends. Once you have become friends with her, you can talk about her yelling habbits and eventually you will find that she is more resourceful than you had even ever thought. Also pray for her, i dont know what your faith is, but i believe it is God who changes the hearts of human beings coz He made us all.
Try that and see if there wont be a change.
Good luck
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reader, Joanne Jane  +, writes (7 December 2007):
hey maybe you should try to talk to her and quit going out with boys...or you can say a prayer, that will do. Try to be nice to and say that you love her...I don't know but maybe she needs love from each one of you, especially from your dad and she also need your forgiveness...come on girl, talk to her...
love and kisses
joanne
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reader, Joanne Jane +, writes (7 December 2007):
hey maybe you should try to talk to her and quit going out with boys...or you can say a prayer, that will do. Try to be nice to and say that you love her...I don't know but maybe she needs love from each one of you, especially from your dad and she also need your forgiveness...come on girl, talk to her...
love and kisses
joanne
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reader, Joanne Jane +, writes (7 December 2007):
hey maybe you should try to talk to her and quit going out with boys...or you can say a prayer, that will do. Try to be nice to and say that you love her...I don't know but maybe she needs love from each one of you, especially from your dad and she also need your forgiveness...come on girl, talk to her...
love and kisses
joanne
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