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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Help! I have a boy friend now who has been my best friend ever since 2nd grade, My mom has been totally cool with him when we were just friends but when he asked me out and I told her she started freaking out. I thought she'd be cool with it because I've known him forever and we both totally trust him! He told his mom and she was fine with it but when ever his mom calls to invite me to a movie or to dinner or something she says no!! almost all my friends have boyfriends but when I tell her this she thinks I'm just making it up to get her to let me date. I'm 14 years old. I even suggested to my mom that she could come with us but even that doesn't win her over. I know that I won't be pressured into doing anything i don't want to do and my boyfriend totally respects me and understands me no matter what so why would it be any different if we were boyfriend and girlfriend? basically all it means is we have a closer relationship. Also, my boyfriend is black and Im white. That doesn't matter to me at all but my mom might not like it. What do I do? HELP!!!!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 I'm sure you don't feel young but I'm guessing your mum looks at you and sees a little girl. It sounds to me like she's scared about you growing up and her being left alone. Talk to her. Tell her how happy your bf makes you and how you are being very responsible and wouldn't even consider sex etc until you're 16. Tell her you don't want this to cause problems between you but you also don't want to have to give up someone who makes you so incredibly happy. My guess is that if you can act mature when talking to your mum then she'll come round unless you're right and it's a race issue in which case it might be more complicated. I don't think you can convince anyone to stop being racist but whatever happens with this guy remember that if it's meant to be you can make it work with or without your mum's approval.
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