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writes: I have a really confusing problem thats been going on for a couple of years now. My mum believes im having an affair with her fiance (kind of my stepdad). she is wrong nothing is going on, she kicked me out of the family home last year and i now have a flat of my own (im 17 now). when i lived at my mums house i worked for my stepdad in the family buisiness,im a martial arts instructor and we run karate schools together, i have in the last few months gone back to working there as i rebuilt a relationship with my mum, but now she is accusing me again, shes started coming to our work everyday to make sure theres nothing happening. she makes horrible comments about me trying to hurt my self-esteem. However recently i have noticed my stepdads behaviour has been a little inappropriate. he jokes about with me and makes sexual comments about me, he also tells me everything but dosnt speak to my mum, he will also ring me during the day just to talk to me(even though we spend most of our time together at work). Im not sure if im reading something into nothing or if something is really going on. i know my mum is accusing him and making his life hell. im not sure if hes doing it to wind her up or what. Everything seemed fine before i came back to work, But now i dont know what to do in this situation, im a bit stuck i dont want to fall out with my mum again but i dont want to have to quit my job either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): wow your situation sucks. my advice to you would be to get another job, away from the stepdad. let him know you suspect his behaviour and won't have a bar of it. the phone calls should stop if they aren't on business matters. all you can do is reassure your mum that you have no interest in her fiance (as you wouldn't, hes obviously too old for you, yuk) good luck, you sound like a brave girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is a very loaded situation, sweetie..and you are treading on thin ice. Your mom's fiance's actions sound rather suspicious to me. I think it would be best for you to find another job ASAP, because this is NOT a good situation. Its a shame your mom is so insecure, but why add fuel to the fire by working with her man? Don't put yourself in this situation.
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