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writes:heres the thing.i just turned 18 and i have been with my mum for 2years now..she left when i was 11 or 12 and we started livin again when i was 16.she has all these rules like dont date,be home by 5pm and all that.she wants me to dothings her way,when she wants and how she wants.she wants to know all my friends,my evry move and calls me evry 5min to know where i am and what am doing.i just wish i could tell her that am a big girl and i hae the way shes controlling it makes me sad and lonely and now my best friend is my laptop as i cant hang out with friends because most parties are at night and my mum wont let me go to them.i tried telling her once but the way she looked at me scares me.i thought of writing my feelings down..i dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): Honey, I personally don't like letters, so i think you should talk to her, be honest about your feelings!And if she gives you THAT look again, maybe you should start considering moving out. Another option, is to stay with a relative, or a friend for a while. Your mom will start to miss you and ask you to come back home. When it happens, you say you'll only go back if things change. If that doesn't work, than you should definetely get a job, move out and start living your life!Good luck!xoxo
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 January 2010):
You're 18 so why not get a job and move out?
You are legally an adult so you just have to tell her that you need some more space.
You say you got scared by her looking at you? If you are scared she may get violent then definitely move out.
There are plenty of houseshares in the world.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): In regards to parties... why don't you just sneak out like every normal teenager has done since the dawn of time?If your mother will not give your freedom, then you will have to take it.If you are out... simply send her a txt telling her what time you'll be home... make sure its not too late, and than turn off the mobile.But whatever you say you are gonna do... live up to it. Never, ever, lie.Flynn 24
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (7 January 2010):
Why don't you write her a letter explaining how much you love her but that you would like a little more freedom. That way, she will think before she reacts. You leave the letter somewhere where she will find it then leave the house and switch off your phone for a couple of hours. Be very loving and sincere in the letter, not angry. Tell her that you are unhappy and would like her to at least let you out during the weekends.
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