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writes:Well heres a bit about myself, im 15 and live with my mum, dad and sister in a wealthy part of wales. My life has never really been bad, i havent experienced no deaths etc, but the year 2008 is the year that ive really found myself.. i got a modelling contract,started my gcse's, and found my boyfiend which i have now been with for 7 months. Ive become closer to my parents, and become more confident in myself and all round my life is very good at the moment. My mum and dad are in with a group of friends that like to go to the pub Alot, and my mum came home from the pub recently and annouced she had got me a job there.. everyday after school for £30 pound. This means no time to revise, no time for my boyfriend, no time for friends or myself. Ive told her i dont want to work in a pub everyday. i cant get her to understand that this is one of the most important years of my life with my gcse's and everything and im the happiest ive ever been.. so why does she have to ruin things? does anyone have any suggestions on how i can make her see shes being unfair? or do you think im being unfair? please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): I don’t think your mum is being unfair at all!!
I didn’t get any work experience at your age & now I find it very hard to get a job & its very frustrating & depressing!! (And its not for lack of qualifications)
I think you mum is right to encourage you to work.
You don’t actually realize how hard it is just to get the smallest, simplest of jobs.
Believe me when your older you’ll thank you’re mum.
I wish min had encouraged & helped me that much when I was your age.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 August 2008):
Start swearing at customers and being rude and dropping glasses and going on "fag breaks" that last 40 mins.
You won't have to work there for long.
Either that or talk to one of your teachers and tell them that you are really worried about your school work and get them to have a word.
Since it's the summer holidays now then you should have time to see people during the day, but in September then really push to quit or at least cut down to one night a week.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (18 August 2008):
 First of all why does your mum want you to work there? Is it because she wants you to give her some lodge money, thinks its time you had a job or just wants you where she can see you, i.e. if she's in the pub and you are there too you cant be up to no good elsewhere.
Secondly unless the law has changed since I worked in a school office a few years ago you cant work in uk under 16 unless you have written permission from your school. Go to to your head of year and ask them to write a letter to your mum saying that they believe this job will be detremental to your education and studying in such an important school year. If you tell them what you told us then I dont think he or she will have a problem talking to your mum about this or at very least they wont sign the under 16 working form. Maybe compromise by agreeing to look for a saturday job later on in the year x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): i do not think your being unfair because its time for you to have fun with your mates and your boyfriend
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Well to start with it would be boring stuff. You're not legally allowed to serve behind the bar as you're underage. Tell your teacher might be your best bet and ask them to have a quiet word with your mum to tell her that this could possibly be the most important year in your life, because if you don't pass your GCSE's you're not going to get a very good job. This is going to hurt, but your Mum is being VERY selfish. She should have consulted you before she got you the job. Tell her and if that fails then go to your teacher.
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reader, sexcbaby08 +, writes (18 August 2008):
your not being unfair i do modelling too. You shouldn't have to work in a pub specially when you want to concentrate more on gcse's that gettin 30 pound a day gcse's give u a career in life working in a pub doesn't unless you want to be a pub manager
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