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writes:My parents are always fighting, not physically, but always screaming at each other, down each other's necks! It gets me down all the time and i sometimes wish i was at school! i have no one to talk to at school, and home! i need 2 help them somehow! Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, baby blue fairy +, writes (10 February 2007):
awww dont worry a lot of people are like you! well worse than you, if you talk to one of your parents about it or both of them tell them how it makes you feel how it upsets you and makes you feel bad hopefully this will bring them to there senses best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Sometimes, parents are better separated than to be together. This isn't a negative thing. In fact, it could be quite healthy for the family. However, this is dependent on how mature each of the parents are, and how well the kids can comprehend such actions.
Like others have suggested, you should try to talk to each of them - not necessarily both at the same time, but definitely to each one. Remember, this isn't just about you. You have been there, you may have a grasp at the things they have been fighting over. It's time you sit down with the each of them, and give your take, and open ideas up to them.
Children aren't simply to leech off of their parents, go to school, grow up, and have families of their own. Sometimes, family life require mediators from within as well.
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reader, Pooh-bear  +, writes (6 February 2007):
I know how you feel. Only difference was it wasn't my dad because he was never around. My mom always argued with her boyfriend. So the first thing I will say to you is, be grateful that your parents are still together. The second thing I will say is, you have to sit down and have a serious talk with your parents. Make sure that no one else is around and let them know that you need to have a talk with them and that it concerns the well being of your family's relationship. Let them know how you feel about them yelling all the time. The same thing you said when you wrote to this web site is the same thing you should say to them. Tell them that you're affraid that if they keep fighting like this, something might happen and they'll end up breaking up and you don't want to be caught in the middle of things. Tell them that you love them and you appreicate it if they would just get along.
Let me know how things turn out. E-mail me at [email address blocked]. Make sure you say that your responding from dearcupid.org. I hope everything turns out ok!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): It's okay, sometimes parent fight. Talk to them and explain how you feel. If that doesn't work talk to childline about it. Their number is 0800 1111. If your parents get a divorce no biggie, sure it will take some time to adjust but it's not the end of the world.
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (6 February 2007):
its difficult being in that situation, trust me ive been there.
my mum and dad are always fighting but luckily im old enough to move out these days.
its not only annoying to hear them fight but for same strange reason being the child you always think its over you. try taking the mature approach, sit them both down together and explain that the constant tension and argueing is effecting you and your school work. no parent wants to hurt their child and with luck theyll try to work on their differences.
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