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writes: dear agony auntsi am currently having trouble at home. i do not know what to do as this is a long story and i will try to make it short. my mum and dad do not get along, because of me and my dad gets angry easily and says stuff to my mum like, "i do not know you from now on, and why did u come into my life and etc", they sometimes do not speak for weeks. i would like to know is this normal between married people? my other question is, when my dad tells me to revise and he helps me, we always end up arguing and yesterday my dad got me angry. my mum then got involved and my dad took the anger on her. i really wanted to punch him for seeing what he did to my mum, and this all happened because i tld my mum. is it normal to want to punch your own dad through anger and hate?finally, i am turning 16 in 15 and would like to know would it be best if i moved out of the house?
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (2 March 2007):
How awful for you.
Your parents are acting totally unacceptably. They should keep their disagreements private. They clearly have some major issues.
It must be very very difficult, but try to keep out of their way, stay in your room at the first sight of trouble, and try not to take sides because their issues are no doubt complex.
Perhaps you can arrange to stay on at school late to revise, or to go to the public library to work, or a friends house. As you are still studying, moving out is unlikely to be practical unless you have a close friend with sufficiently wealthy parents to have both the room and the willingness to take you in.
If you witness any physical violence between your parents, call the police.
Finally, ask at your school whether there is a counsellor that you can talk to, because you need some support. A counsellor could discuss with you whether it is appropriate for a teacher or counsellor to visit your parents to explain the impact that their fighting is having on you and implore them to think more of protecting you from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy mum treats my dad with respect though, she irons the clothes does everything and my dad does nothing to help her, i really do not want them to split up but im scared that one of these days im going to punch him in the face or do something i regret. bdw my mum also cooks for my dads sister when ever we go to her house and she got some hate, do you think this is why my dad treats my mum like this. he never treats any other person the way he treats me and my mum. for some reason he gets along with my sisters, who are younger than me.
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reader, keely-h +, writes (2 March 2007):
 dont blame yourself it is your dad you and your mom deserve better this must be hard for you ask your how she feels about or try your best to forget your mom and dad could work try locking them in a closet see if anything changes they might just work things out hope it goes well
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