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41-50,
*eerasehgal
writes:we have been married for almost 7years and have 4yrs old daughter. but from day one continous interference from my mother in law side. she has created such a misunderstanding between us that our relationship is deterorating day by day.she creates a problem and thereafter comes to resolve it and that worsens the situation. in a month we hardly talk to each other for 10-15 days thereafter the same thing happens. i fail to understand what to do? she is very keen for me to join a job after few months she creates such a mess in home front that i am forced to leave the job. please help ..... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): You are not the first woman to have an interfering mother in law.... and it seems you also have no support from your partner? Does he not see what is going on and speak to his own mother? I doubt it - they never do... :-( My best advice to you is to speak with your husband and tell him that if the interference does not stop you plan to leave because this is not a marriage it is a misery. His duty is to you. I have personal experience of what you describe (and much worse) and the thing that really broke me and my husband up was him never ever standing up for me as I completely lost respect for him putting his mothers feelings before mine every single time without fail and allowing me to be verbally and emotionall abused for years on end. You will never win the battle against your mother in law as once she has decided she wants to be like this she will carry on regardless. However your response and more importantly your husbands response to it is critical. This is what will ensure you can deal with her effectively. The only last bit of advice I have is that if your husband is not prepared to back you and you are forced to put up with this please don't let it go on and on as it will destroy your self worth.
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