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female
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30-35,
*m desperate for a baby
writes:my bf mum is really ruining our relationship, she wont but out, she comes round every day and cleans up, best thing is she does the my bf's ironing and i have to do my own, its as if i need a gold card to be with my bf its ruining our relationship i dont no what to do? please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (26 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes her husband is still around but heworks away most of the time, no she does not have a life outside of being a mommy, she does not work she does sewing and making things alot of the time but thats usually at night time when she has got nothing else to do, also she cooks food for us, can i not cook? am i going to poison my bf if i cook?
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female
reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (26 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not working ive tried all that having it done before she gets here, but she always has to find something to do, he has always been a mommys boy so im wondering if that mite be the cause of it and if so what can i do about it? please help im stressing here"!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): An afterthought - why not go round to her place and vacuum her carpets or do something like dusting off her mantlepiece? A good trick would be to dust her TV screen then show her the dirty duster. I guarantee it'll be filthy unless she's beaten you to it!
She may be thick skinned though. If so, ask her as politely as you can whether or not she's got a home to go to.
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (25 October 2007):
 have you thought to what the reason she could be doing it is ??the psycological reason ? e.g. she is taking care of him because she finds it hard to accept he has left home ?~
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): There are other alternatives here.
If you've done all the ironing before she comes round - the previous night perhaps - she won't have any ironing to do. On the off-chance he's ever been in the forces, he'll know how it's done, and if so, get him to do it.
Alternatively, make sure it's wringing wet when she's expected. She won't try to iron wet washing. Hanging washing out is a pain in tha arse sort of job as far as I'm concerned, so let her hang it out, but make sure the basket is absolutely crammed with his stuff so that she's got tons to do. Turn his drawers out if you have to in order to bulk it up. I'm guessing she'd soon get fed up with it.
Phil
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female
reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (25 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat piece of writing that agony uncle chris was very good i will carry that out and get back to you thanksso much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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female
reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (25 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes she knows we are an item and he is very supportive but she just doesnt seem to listen we tell her not to do it but she does it any way its doing my head in im going to blow my top soon (very soon) i need HELP QUICK!!!
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (25 October 2007):
heya hun xoh that must be frustrating , but the only way to sort it is to actually talk with your boyfreind who probably will find it hard to understand your point of view because he sees it not as his mother ruining your relationship but the house work being done for freeyou need to tell him to get his act together because its pushing you apart, and you need to make him realise with something you will carry out if he doesnt
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reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (25 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim 17 and hes 34 he knows how i feel and he said that i had to do what i had to do which i was going to tell her straight but i dont wanna say to much incase its harmfull to my relationship with my bf
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): How old are you two? Have a good long chat with him and explain just how you feel. Tell him you cannot go on like this and she need to be pushed into the background. It is ok for her to come around, but not so often. And, why cant he iron his own stuff? Is he a child? Tell him to get it sorted or you will and he wont like the consequences.
take care and dont take crap!!
xx
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