A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Agony aunts,Please help. My mother gives me a message that i am someone to be hated whereas many other females give me an opposite message and think that i deserve to be loved and to be treated well. But my mother is also quite strong in her belief which i get trapped in to and accept it to be true. I have this inner conflict as to whether i really love myself or hate myself. In past, any incidents where women have tried to show that they like me or love me were taken as an offence to this sacred inner belief of hatred for self that i owe to my mother. Please advice.Thanks,Ace
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reader, Farris  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 My mother pretty much hates me too... Mainly because being younger than her, I have the chance to do things with my life which she can no longer do.
Maybe you should try to look at the reasons why your mother has said these things to you, and work out in your head whether it's actually reflective of herself or you. It may be useful for you to visit a therapist or counsellor to help you do this.
In my opinion, it is NO ONE'S RIGHT to tell another that they don't deserve to be loved. Every individual in this world are the ones who should decide whether to love someone. Those other females who give you the opposing message, are very right.
It's easy to get attached to something that one person says, especially when it's family, but you should make sure that you don't let it rule your life. You may need help from a counsellor on this to work through all the complicated intricacies of the issues.
If you believe that you should be loved... THEN LOVE YOURSELF! Everyone should.
Good luck, & best wishes.
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reader, rossiboy confessions +, writes (1 April 2007):
 hey good day well ur mother has no right to judge you to be hated or make you feel small, she the one who is insecure and hates herself but you shudnt try get even or score points as such i want you to have motivation to go mum i love you no matter what, you may think i am a bad person but i am going ot go out there prove myself and to you i can be good, sucessful and then you shall see if ur mum can support you, love you , cherish you best of luck rossiboy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): what sort of mother does and says that to her child?i believe only someone who blames you for destroying her life,but she had a choice and she choose to bring you into this world,maybe its time you sought proffesional help as its going to take a longtime to recover from such hurt
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