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writes:I'm sure this sounds unusual, especially being I'm 31 yrs old and my mother's 50, but the guy I love knows I love him, because my mother told him. I'd already told him I like him, but not that I love him, until after my mother did. We were attracted to eachother the moment we met. After 3 wks I said something to flabbergast him, which had nothing to do with loving him, but I still should've kept my mouth shut. We remained friends though. For the past few weeks though, he's always acted uncomfortable around me and went so far as to delete and block not only my mother, but, also me, from his fb. I think I's deleted and blocked, because I kept mailing him about mail my mother would send him about me loving him then tell me about. I wanted him to know, even though it's true, I'd not try to be any more than friends, because that's what he's comfortable with. It seems like a lost cause to even attempt being friends with him again. He knows I'd try being no more than friends, but I think he's just too uncomfortable. I'm giving him space, but I also don't won't lose any chance I have at salvaging our friendship. I'd appreciate any words of advice anyone can give, especially if they've been through anything that can relate to this in any way. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your input. I actually ended up fussing at my mother, something I've done only twice. I felt bad, but she got the point & appologized. My friend contacted me & said he cares about me but is just uncomfortable & will contact me later. Well, we'll see. In the mean time, I'm giving him space.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Tell your mother to butt out of your love-life.
there isn't much you can do other then let him mull this over, either he can handle this or he can't.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 Hi darling, aw i would love to say to you that aw it would be great if this guy wasnt uncomfortable and you could just go on being no more than platonic friends but this just doesnt happen in the real world. I understand that you love him and that you would rather have him in your life as a friend and nothing more. But can you imagine if use were friends and he got a girlfriend how would you feel? I'm afraid you have to let this man go, if he has deleted and blocked you and your mother then it is clear that he doesnt want anything to do with you. So you should stop mailing him and go out and meet new people your own age abd start socializing and trying to forget about him, you never no once you have left him alone for a bit he might make contact with you but dont let this guy hurt you. Go out and find a man that loves you for you and wants to be with you as much as you him. Good luck.
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