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female
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36-40,
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writes:I'm really at my wits end with my mum, we argue all the time and she insists on always being right no matter what. I'm almost tempted to record our conversations as proof, because she ALWAYS remembers something as happening in an entirely different way and then insists she's right. Even when I tell her something several times, she'll insist later that I never told her.She's not old, she's only in her 50s, but this behaviour is driving me crazy. This sort of thing happens constantly, today alone it happened on three different occasions about trivial things that she shouldn't even be yelling at me about. Whenever I try to talk it out with her calmly and logically she ignores me or dismisses me.I'm studying to become a psychiatrist and ever since I started, I've noticed she has a few severe personality disorders and seems to be in denial about a lot of it rather than just unaware. Severe hoarding is one, she even hoards cats. She's always been extremely passive aggressive towards me and you'd think in my field of study, I'd know how to handle it! But I really don't, speaking to her calmly and trying to explain where she might be mistaken never works. I'm always to blame for everything, literally everything. If she stubs her toe, it's my bloody fault for not warning her to be careful. It's ridiculous!How can I talk some sense into her? Could this be part of menopause? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Yes it could be part of the menopause darling, or she may just be getting very forgetful, this can happen to women even in there 50's believe me. I dont really have great advice for you as you can make her go to the doctor for help. But if you sit her down and explain to her how miserable she is making you feel maybe she will realise she needs help but only she can make this decision, tell her she is pushing you away and that she will end up losing you if she doesn get help. Good Luck.
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reader, Rosygirls92  +, writes (25 September 2010):
Lol I'm chinese and i've got a mum like that too. Well, just try you're best to make peace with your mum. Just be quiet and try and be understanding. Don't try to explain since she'll take it that you're arguing (mine always does). Just say yes and walk away, and you've proved to yourself that you're the bigger person. If it gets out of hand, maybe move out? I have and it's great when I come back.
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