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writes:I'm 14 and could be pregnant, i had sex with my ex 3 month ago and have missed every period, my mum has only found this out today, so she is taking me for a preggy test but the thing is im to scared incase i amm.im not sure how to bring a baby up at my age, iv always wanted One but am i to young ?
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-truth-about-my-teenage-pregnancy.html
Here is the link
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reader, love-struckxo +, writes (8 September 2009):
Hi, I am fifteen and I discovered I was pregnant in July. I encourage you to read my article about My Teenage Pregnancy and the tough desicions I had to make.
This will probably be the hardest desicion you'll ever have to face as a young girl.
Feel free to message me as I know everything you are going through.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (7 September 2009):
 Nobody can tell you that you're too young for a baby, nobody can tell you weather or not you're able to raise a child. It's your decision. I had my daughter at 16 and it's really hard work. I don't regret having her as I love her more than anything but there are times I think it would have been nice if she'd arrived a few years later!You may not have to make a decision at all, use this time to think things through clearly. Would you have good support from the people around you? That's a very important thing. The bottom line is only you can make this decision now, it's good to take on board everyones advice and listen to their points of view but you have to do what you feel is right for you or you'll always regret it. Good luck hun x
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (7 September 2009):
First off why did you wait so long? If you are pregnant you are having a baby you need to decide if you are keeping it or adopting it out. You are too far along for an abortion. Now you know not to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Its a very hard situation, especially considering how young you are. The choice is up too you and what you think is best not for you, but for your child. If you dont think you are ready and you just cant handle the responsibility, then maybe you should look into giving the baby up for adoption. If you do think your parents, family and friends will be able to support you and help get you through this, and that you are strong enough and will be able to take great care of your child and give them a happy life, then you should talk with your family and tell them how you feel and if you want to keep them. It could end up you arent pregnant, and if thats the case, always use protection in the future and wait until you are older and absolutely ready to have a child.
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reader, Shimakasai +, writes (7 September 2009):
My mother has told me of story of how she was raped when she was 16. She got pregnant and her own mother convinced her to get an abortion. She feels it was one of the worst mistakes of her life and not a day goes by that she doesn't think about the baby she had been carrying around. She feels really guilty and even now (22 years later) she still gets sick with the thought of what had happened. I recommend either keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. You can even choose out its future parents to help you know that it will be in good hands. But don't make a mistake you'll regret for the rest of your life. Babies can take a lot of work and cause a lot of stress, but you can get through raising the child if you have help. But I highly discourage an abortion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Unfortunatly, even if your not planning a baby, these things still happen when you don't use contraception! Obviously you've already had sex, you are too young to have it, but since your going to do it again anyway regardless, all i will say is use protection, to prevent this happening again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): i got food stamps when i got my first kid at fourteen. it aint easy but you deal with it. im 18 now with three kid and im happy! congrats! you will luv them lots!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): take a breather and wait til the doctor tells you! this is your moment to think this through. try to decide what is best for you. my daughter became pregnant at 15, eventually she had a nervous breakdown because of the pressures of school and child rearing, i adopted my own grandchild as my own child. my daughter now lives with her father and is currently in college, she has abstained from sexual contact since than and comes home often to see the wonderful miracle. but she was not ready either. its a lot to ask of yourself and it will change your life, but make the most of it. again, take a breather, you do not know those results at this moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): we cannot help you. when you find out the results of your test than you will have to have this discussion with your mother as she is your parental guardian and make a choice from there. i hope you are not, that way you can walk a way a wiser more chaste young lady. good luck and GOD BLESS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): well..seeing as how you said your mom is taking you to get one..You'll have to wait and let us know if you are or not
Abortion possibly seeing as how you're oly 14 and way too young for a baby
or adoption but whatever you want really
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): why have sex at 14? kids should not be in bed like adults. sex is for committed people who know/ discuss beforehand what their intentions are before they have sex, and agree upon a course of action if the issue of pregnancy comes up. this is why kids do not have sex, they arent mature enough for these talks. when you find out the results thats when you will have to make a choice. and let this be a lesson.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): girl, what did you think would happen when he you had sex? sex is fun, but its main purpose- BIOLOGICAL agenda is PREGNANCY! why would you not want a child at 14, but want to engage in an activity that leads to pregnancy? even with condoms there is a chance of pregnancy. why did you think that you can take that out of the equation? if your not ready for the responsibility than you shouldn't be having the fun.
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reader, JJayx +, writes (7 September 2009):
 With any pregnancy comes the three options; keep it, abort or adopt?At a young age abortion can be traumatic and can leave you wanting a baby more, however it can also be the best option for you, your surrounding family and your future.But the same thing can be said about keeping a baby. A baby is a huge responsibility and with some major years in your schooling years approaching a baby can prove to make things more difficult for you.You also have to consider the father... I don't know whether you have told him or not and its not of my business and as much as his opinion matters, whats i personally believe is what you want? You are the one that for the next 6 months could be carry a child.Its your body and its your choice.I hope with this i didn't sound patronising but i also hope I helped. Good luck! xx
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