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writes:Ok, erm I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I am madly in love and everything was going fine. Until that is when a few days ago my mom drops the bombshell on me that we are third or fourth cousins, I don't understand why nobody told me before, I think she thought that we would have been over before now. But anyway I've been thrown into a bit of a frenzy over this, I mean we've spoken about it and we have decided to try and stick it out together. I know in the UK it's legal for first cousins to get married but do you think this counts as incest? do you think it would be safe for us to have children together in the future, and I'd be grateful for any other advice. thanks
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reader, niko bellec  +, writes (13 June 2010):
i dont think its wrong, you both arent even related by blood. the only thing that connects you two is that you both have the same great great great great great grandparents. its not incest. dont worry about it. its all good and clean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): You two barely even count as related. Do you have any idea how distantly third and fourth cousins are related?
Put it this way, you probably share the same amount of common genes with the non-related people that live next door to you.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): with 3rd or 4th cousins - you have enough variation in your genetics that it shouldn't be a problem for you or potential kids - and its not inincest , incest tends to be brother/sister, parent/child, uncle/niece kind of situations. In england you can marry your first cousin although personally i have never seen the attraction, though that may be because all my male cousins are dogs lol If he makes you happy then i doubt you have anything to worry about - live your life and be happy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): i am marrried to my cousin..our grandmothers were first cousins....we have healthy and intelligent children. we have a lot of fun with the whole thing...and hey we share a mutual family reunion. haha. best of luck, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): It's fine.
It's not incest.
Go have fun and stop worrying!
xxx
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Personally I don't know anything about it, but maybe a Googling session to do a bit of research might help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): i think dont think its incest and i think its safe for you to to have kids. but maybe you should ask a doctor first just in case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): This is a complete NON-ISSUE.
Quit worrying about it and get on with life!
(find something else worth worrying about)
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reader, Faraday +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Perfectly safe from all points of view: you have nothing to worry about and this revelation is of NO importance to you.
Go ahead.
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