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writes: Hi!I have a big problem.Well my mum has got really snappy at me and I don't know y!Ur mum is meant 2 b ur best friend isn't she not ur worst enemy!It's all because there woz a nasty smell in my room under my bed then we moved my bed and found that there were MAGGOTS living under my bed I woz horrified!Then ever since then she makes everything I say in2 an argument and everything she says is mean.Sum 1 plz help I just want 2 b friends wiv my mum again!
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (18 April 2007):
Ok, that has made me laugh as the same happened to me once and once only! I had the clean freak of a mother. I am now 33 and she died nearly 3 years ago. I did some pretty weird and wonderful stuff to my Mum, BUT at the end of the day your Mum at the moment is seeing you as lazy, using her house, you don't care etc. The best deal honestly is to turn around and say to her 'Can we have a chat?' Let her know how horrified you were at the maggot thing and tell her how embarrassed, humiliated, ashamed you were. Ask her what you can do more to help or make a difference? Put the ball in her court? Ask her what she wants from you and then DO IT! If you care for her and love her, then do whatever it takes. I wish I could for my Mum...everyday and I can't. Make your relationship worth everything to you and her. Tell her how much you love, respect and honour her friendship. It is the best. I miss my Mum incredibly and wish I could see her or hear her voice. I would move mountains to change so much. So do it now.
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reader, been_there +, writes (17 April 2007):
 Your at a difficult age, when I was at early teen age my mom was far from my best friend trust me! She read my personal diary and everything but i later learned that its just cuz she cares so much. When parents ( moms especially) feel that they cant communicate proply with you they start 2 use their authprity and yell and get controlling. I agree completely with the post below, try, CALMLY to talk 2 her tell her you dont understand y ur always arguing and u dont liek the atmosphere, you want 2 involve her in your life and go back 2 being friends Im sure she'l feel that your grown up and mature enough to have a conversation with rather than just shout at. Hope Ive helped, rate me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Oh God, maggots eh?
Well, whenever I've had an arguement with my Mum, I talk to her about it.. or atleast try if she's not in a bad mood.
Say to her " Mum, can I talk to you?" then talk to her, whatever you do, don't yell at her because things will lead into bad arguements. Instead of sayin " you're doing this! and you're annoying!"
Say " I feel that I'm doing everything all wrong, you seem to be angry with me for a lot of things and I don't really know why. I was worried about talkin to you because I was worried about how you'll react but I love you Mum and I want to sort this out because I miss the good times we had." or something along those lines.
hope this helps hun! xx
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