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writes: I made my mum so angry she threw an iron at me. she didn't intend for it to hit me (i don't think) but it was within 1/2 a metre away from me. Is this child abuse, or is this just expressing anger? she can really scare me sometimes; i can make her so angry that she screams and throws things, and afterwards she makes out that it wasn't as bad as i remembered it, like she remembers it differently for some reason. Are these rage blackouts she's having? She threw some crockery at my brother once. He said it was aimed at his head, and would have hit him if he hadn't ducked out of the way (he may have been exadurating, dunno). the wierd thing is, she always seems like a calm, gentle person who woldn't hurt a fly, so no one believes me. please help xx Reply to this Question
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reader, bridget +, writes (6 April 2006):
 Hey there pet,
Im glad that you have built up the courage to speak
about the situatins you are having at home...
I do believe your mother has anger related issues
that she must deal with and until she does this will
just continue..
I dont think it is meant though, (she would do it all the time if it was meant) but I do beleieve that in a fit of frenzy she just picks up the nearest thing and throws it at you and doesnt realise she does it until it is done..
This is a form of child abuse it is known as physical abuse and this is what youe are experiencing.. You say that afterwards she makes out that is wasnt as bad as it was, this is the way of clearing the air and trying to shift the blame aswell...
My advice to you would to speal to a close relative that you can confide in... I do not think taht your mother means to be so bad tempered but she must have some personal psychological issues she needs to get sorted.. Sometimes in a full stress day or an argument people say things taht they later on live to regret, or they do something they cannot undo...
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): Your Mother sounds like a "rager" and this is abuse. Healthy anger is not violent, and isn't used to intimidate, control or manipulate. It is openly expressed, discussed, and moved through in a mature adult fashion with boundries and limit setting. It's highly likely your Mom could have been taught this behaviour as a child, herself. This is how she deals with deep emotions like..shame, embarrassment, guilt, non-compliance (from you kids) Where is your Father in all this? Please talk to him and tell him what has happened. Your Mother needs counselling for anger management issues. She's hurting badly inside. Please have a trusted adult speak with her, quickly. There is no reason to permit her anger to cause you and your siblings to experience fear and have an unsafe feeling, in your own home. Kids need to feel comfortable and safe. I know you love your Mother, so do this for her. See if anyone can help you in order for her to seek some counselling. You are a brave girl..but don't put this off. The next time Mom goes into a blind rage, someone could get hurt...badly!
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reader, TrishaWhit +, writes (6 April 2006):
 She may have unresolved anger issues, and should see a counsellor.Trish
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