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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I need help - my mum doesn't like my boyfriend. I love my mum, but she's been hurt badly by men throughout her life and on top of that, she's now overly protective of me after I was stuck in an abusive relationship a couple of years ago. She also thinks that at my age (I'll be 25 soon) I should still be dating lots of guys, casually, not getting serious with anyone. The only guy of mine she's liked in the past 6 years was the one who had been too badly hurt by another woman to be able to have a real relationship with me. My mum keeps bringing him up and asking when I'll see him again, or asking when I'll give some new guys a chance. She thinks my boyfriend shows signs of being controlling, like that abusive ex I mentioned, but she's only met him once when she came to visit me so she doesn't actually know him and I don't think she's giving him a fair chance. He's a lovely guy and I get none of the bad instinctive feelings about him which I had and ignored with my ex. I can truly be myself with him and we understand each other so well considering we've only been together for 6 months. This is everything I want in a relationship... except that I feel torn in 2 between making my mum happy and making myself happy. I don't know how to resolve this, so any advice or stories of similar situations would be great!
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