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writes: My mom doesn't like my boyfriend. We've been together for more than a year, and I consider myself happy with him. She doesn't like him because he and I have been having problems, because he doesn't approve of my past (I was involved with the mutual friend who introduced us, long before meeting my boyfriend though. He also doesn't like the fact that I kissed some random guys at parties). We have had lots of tearful discussions about this, and so my mom has started disliking my boyfriend.The other day he broke up with me. I was devastated, and my mom told me it was better like this, that he doesn't deserve me, that he's not worth it, that she dislikes him. We came back together and now we're doing great, but she's not happy about it.It makes me sad, really. I love my boyfriend, and I know he loves me although our relationship is not perfect, but none of us are miserable with each other, we're actually rather happy... but it makes me so sad that my mom dislikes him and I don't know whether I should stay with him or break up with him to make my mom happy...I know she just does it because she doesn't want me to suffer but still... I remember she ADORED him before we started having those issues! Now, she dislikes him... :(
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reader, maggie1987  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 well if your boyfriend can handle the fact you where with one of his friends and still wants to be with you then i think he must really like you so in future tell your mum how much you like him and also that your not going to break up with him and you would like her to just try get on with him as it would make you alot happier also mention that it is getting you down and feeling sad that your mum doesnt like you boyfreind as it makes it harder for you to please both of them and hopefully shell try a bit more to at least get on and that way it could lead to them eventually being friends and getting on better than they would have thought
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): I think you should stay with him. I was in a similar situation with my parents and I broke up with my boyfriend. It was the right decision for me because my parents gave me a choice - my family or the boyfriend. Because it hasn't come to that kind of full on decision for you, you should stay with him. Create opportunities to show your mom that you are happy and for her to get to know him better and realise who he really is, and tell her that he makes you happy and that its natural - all couples fight at some time or another. However, don't get yourself into the trap of thinking you're happy when you're not, just for the sake of telling/showing your mom - be sure of it in your own mind. Although, if she notices something that may make a long-term impact on your relationship, listen to her advise and take it on board, however, if it's just a personal thing she has against him, make sure you evaluate it correctly and how that affects your relationship with your mom - because no matter what, your mom will always be that = your mom, your boyfriend may not. Hope that helps. All the best of luck!
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reader, meangirl101  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 i had a situation like that before i think you should do what ever makes you happy if you break up with your boyfiend cuz of your mom and you get with someone else and she does the same thing then it might be cuz she doesn't want to let you go but if you love your boyfriend then why brek up with him cuz if you break up with him you might lose him forever jus think how that would feel....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): in my personal opinion i think that you should stay with your boyfriend, your mom will eventually realise that hes a nice person and that every couple argues. your mom wont be annoyed with you even if you choose to stay with him.its really up to you.
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