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writes:well.. way back in september.. i was introduced to this girl. dam i fell for her quick but she had never been with a guy before so i new i didnt have much of a chance if the other guys didnt. but then we got real close real fast and we started seeing each other every wednesday then i asked her out. she said she wasnt sure because a lot of things were going on. then we made a deal that we would make up our minds about each other at Halloween. so between then and halloween i did everything i could to impress her and get close and she liked that. then come halloween i met a new girl. i didnt know who to choose but i new i liked the first girl more. but then i did the worst thing on halloween i told the first girl that i wanted to know about her decision earlier because i met another girl. that i think hurt her.. and i have hated myself for it ever since. she said no as im sure you have guessed. now im still with that other girl and we love each other and im still friends with the first one. but every so often i go into a state where my mind wont stop saying why why why and i cant stop it and i know its about the first girl.. then i go warm and cold then warm and cold and so on.. i cant stop it.. no matter how much i love my current gf i just cant help but think about the first girl... i cant stop my mind from asking why................. please please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): woah dude, you've got yourself into one helluva problem here, and it sucks. I actually had a surprisingly similar problem myself, and you need to do some serious thinking my friend, no one can make the decision for you. find something that helps you focus like a laser beam. I, for example, love shooting. it really focused my mind and I can get some serious thinking done. now, if your looking for a suggestion from me, I'd say go with the first one and don't look back. now, based on the fact that the website says your 13-15 yrs old, and that I'm the same age, you might want to consider not dating at all. at this point in your life, I'm sure that there are more important things than having a relationship. and, I hate to break it to you, but chances are that neither relationship will amount to anything. I know your conflicted and convinced that you love them, but sometimes, it just isn't worth the trouble. but again, it's totally up to you, and my advice is to make one decision and never look back, no matter how hard it seems, because you'll only find the unnessisary conflict and false regret of paths not taken. stay on the sunny side of life, be excellent, and party on dude
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