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writes:my best mate whos been gay for 3 years , said he cares for me a lot, and has been thinking about what it would be like if we got together I dont know what to say to this as i know hes saying this cause hes lonely, cause since hes been gay he hasnt had a boyfriend, and weve known each other for 8 years. He's been a great mate to me i was thinking is he saying this cause hes lonely or cause its real? Also does that make him bi sexual and im not sure if i would be comfortable with it if we was to get together Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): He might possibly be bi-sexual. But what you have got to remember is never be forced into a relationship in which you don't want to be in and considering you don't like the idea of being with this guy you don't have to be. Just stay mates with him and get with someone who you want to be with.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 Sexual identity can be a slippery thing at his age. Right now I suspect he's trying to decide if he's NOT sleeping with boys or NOT sleeping with girls, and either way he's frustrated. He sees you as a solution because you've been mates for so long.Ultimately you have to be the one to decide, but I'd advise you not to sleep with him. Continue to be the supportive mate that you've always been, but make it clear to him that you feel that if the two of you got it together you could never go back to what you have now, and that you would miss that too much to give it up.And don't worry too much about labels. He's just a human being, with human wants and needs. And he's the same great person that you've know all these years. Stand by him, regardless.
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