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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: Hi, My ex and I had broken up because he couldn't accept the fact that I decided to date someone else after he never divorced his wife , who he says had cheated on him. I only dated the other guy about six months, but after giving him over four years to get himself out of his situation. I wanted to get back with him but after he always treated me bad for dating someone else, I gave up on him after about a year, but when I left him alone, he started back calling me as if he wanted to work things out. I deciedd to leave him alone and let him be in the beginning of 2009, but he act like he wanted us at times and other times he didn't. If you are thinking we were having sex, no we were not having sex since he has been playing these games. Anyway I told him not to call me anymore in October of this year he ssaid he really wanted to be with me and still was not divorced and when I agreed I didn't hear from him for a whole month. When I called Him ,he said he was going to wait until he had gotten his self together. I was so hurt because he ask me I didn't ask him. Anyway, he said he would pay me the money he owed me that I loan him for gas 5 months ago. He never did. He also said that he would give me a computer monitor that someone had given him because he didn't need it. He never did that either and I just got so tired of him thinking he can just do me any kind of way because I hurt him I started praying for God to get him out of my heart. I decided that I would not let him take me for granted anymore. I just gave up completely and stop calling him. Check out his nerve he calls me the day after thanksgiving to say happy thanksgiving and act like he had done nothing wrong. Anyway a week later he called me four times after I had gotten off a 12hour midnight shift and the last time he left a message saying he had tradegy in his family,and needed someone to talk to. I still didn't call him back because whenever I ask him why he couldn't call me some days he would say he was to tired, didn't have time, or was helping his dad, besides he lives with his wife and has friends and I figured why put my self through that when I was trying to get over him.So many times he overlooked my feeling like I was nobody, but I wasn't really out for revenge but he needed to know that I was somebody and had feeling just like he did. This guy has overlook my feelings and played with my emotions for over a year, so what I did was prayed for God to let him have who he needed to comfort him. A week has passed since he tryed to contact me and yesterday he left a message on my voicemail telling me his father had pass and I was not the person he thought I was and he promised not to ever bother me again and also that when he saw me in the steet he wouldn't turn his head my way. I really felt bad because of the way he felt and I felt bad that he had lost a love one. I called him several times on his job to tell him I was sorry about his lost but he said he was busy and would call me back but he never did so I left a message on his voice mail and told him. I also told him that I will treat him good when I saw him regardless of how he has said he's going to treat me and to be greatful that he has a wife and kid to comfort him.I feel I'm to old to act like a child . I told him I didn't call because I knew God would let whoever need to be their for him during this time be in place. Now my question is was I wrong for not calling him on the day he tryed to contact me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): No you were not wrong at all you stayed strong and wise and that's good. Sounds like my ex but I know he done worse to but any ways its good because you only wanted to say you were sorry and that was it. And to be honest he is not goin to get a divorce it seems like when things are goin good in his marriage he ignores you but when things are goin wrong he contacts you .don't be a door mat and I can tell you're a strong woman move on from him and go on with your life you deserve better:)
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