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anonymous
writes:I am a single mom and work as a nurse. I have met a physician I really like only to find out he is married. Well, I don't do married but agreed that we can be friends and nothing more. He has made it clear that he wants more but he doesn't want me to fall in love. Anyway, I have kept my end of the bargain and have not had sex or any sort with him. I may send him a sexy text but, that is as far as it goes. Our little friendship has been going on for 4 yrs now with no cheating or sex. Lately about this year, he has really change. He has become sexually aggressive and clingy. He follows me to work, he calls/text almost daily. The one thing that stuck out was him telling me he ain't leaving me alone. What the heck happened? He is making me nervous. He apologizes for his actions, only to do something else worse. What is the take on this? I have made it clear that we are never ever going to sleep together. The sexual aggression is what is bothering me. I keep telling myself he would never do anything to hurt his career or.... Would he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): A sexy text is all it takes for a guy. That gave him the green light to get more aggressive with you and start pursuing you. He wants sex and that's it. You gotta stop those texts because it is leading him on even if are saying no. It is giving him mixed signals.Delete him off your cell or get another cell number.If he is following you to work he is stalking you.Totally ignore this man. Do not respond to him in any way. Completely cut him off.If he persists, then yes, take it to HR as another poster said here or if you have to, get the police involved because he shouldn't be following you to work. Hopefully, this fruit loop doesn't know where you live. Always be aware of your surroundings. Look under your car, in the back seat, before you go to work and after you leave from work. I had to do this because I was in a situation like this but for a different reason and especially if I was working late and the parking lot was dark I was extra cautious.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (20 July 2013):
 Hi Anom,
You were doing the right thing for not sleeping with him but please don't send him any text message and you will have to completely end it. I wouldn't bother telling him anything just blank him off.
Goodluck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2013):
 Cut it off. STOP with the sexy test - actually cut the contact and tell him you can't do this any more.
I would document (keep a journal) and if he doesn't stop - give him ONE warning and then go to HR. This is not OK.
He doesn't respect your no and he doesn't think you actually mean no, because of your sexy texting.
Though as scary and creepy as his actions are.... What on Earth are you getting out of this? You think it's OK? Because YOU are single?
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