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writes:My ex of many years talks to me reguarly on the phone. He has married a few years ago. Just the other day a song came on the radio "I'm hooked on a feeling" An old song. Anyway, he starts singing it while I'm on the phone with him. It was on the radio. Now I don't know if I'm reading too much into this, but is he trying to tell me something? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): So very confused, I see your point. I really didn't think there's was any harm I mean we don't meet up or anything, just chat on the phone. But I wouldn't want It done to me!! Your right!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 February 2013):
 Ok so he’s lying to his wife and cheating on her (in my book) because he’s talking with you on the phone regularly and he knows she would not like it. And she’s 100% correct
If you were his wife and you found out he was talking with an ex-girlfriend on the phone regularly and he kept it a secret from her what would YOU think? How would YOU feel?
And if she leaves him what would you think or do or want? IF YOU SAY YOU WOULD TAKE UP WITH HIM AGAIN, think long and hard about “his wife hates me.” and add “I would take up again with him if she left him” and then tell me why you are so surprised she hates you.
I’m going to tell you point blank… my EX husband kept his secret girlfriends on the phone from me… he would text them and talk to them and he told me it meant nothing.. but it meant everything and it was lying and cheating our marriage.
You do realize if she finds out and files for divorce she will NAME YOU as a RESPONDENT responsible for alienation of affection right?
being a secret friend to a married man is NEVER a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): No, his wife doesn't know. He doesn't want her to know because he said he doesn't want to hear any crap!!!! We were together a long time, and even though she never met me, I think she hates me!!!
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reader, sunshineyogi  +, writes (13 February 2013):
Does his wife know he phones you? That type of singing doesn't seem meaningful, if he was whipping out a guitar and quiet serenade if would be different but singing along to the radio is a pretty casual thing.Would be more concerned with whether his wife knows you guys talk? If she doesn't, she should. If you know she doesn't you should let him know that she should know about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): Previous anon male w/ correction to previous post: "Ooga-chaka" Hooked on a Feeling artist is Blue Swede, not Suede.Your married ex's behavior makes make think of another song written by HOAF composer Mark James: Elvis' Suspicious Minds.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 February 2013):
He’s your ex and he’s married. Does his WIFE know he talks to you regularly on the phone? Is she OK with it?
I would not read too much into it at all that he was singing “hooked on a feeling” (btw was it the blue suede version or the BJ Thomas version?)
The fact that you asked the question tells me we need to explore why you are keeping in touch with him?
Are you partnered?
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reader, when nothing goes right go left  +, writes (13 February 2013):
 I wouldn't read too much into it because he's married and if nothing can cone of it then there's no point in driving yourself mad by going over it in your head i would leave it as unless he actually says it to you then i
would just move on.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2013): ". . . is he trying to tell me something?"Yes, he wants to you read too much into it so he has a reason to sweet-talk you into being his piece on the side.BTW, which version of "Hooked on a Feeling," BJ Thomas or Blue Suede (the one with the "ooga-chaka, ooga-chakas")? If he was singing along with Blue Suede, then he really is a louse. No woman should ever be so gullible as to let a married man "ooga-chaka" her into bed.
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