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female
age
36-40,
*etrayed_hurt
writes:A year ago I started new job, my older boss Rob (Im 23 he is 44),started flirting with me like crazy. he asked me out to dinner and I said yes. We started hanging out and then things turned into more. In the beginning I thought nothing of it and just kinda thought it was fun sex. Then one weekend he asked me to go anyway with him, and I said yes. After that I relized I was totally falling in love with him. Then 2 months ago out of nowhere a lady with a little girl showed up at our office and as soon as Rob came out of the office the little girl ran up to him saying `daddy daddy`` and he walked over to greet the girl. When he seen me standing there his face went blank and he rushed them into his office. I felt so betrayed, he never once told me he had a wife or a child. He tried to explain himself saying that they were having problem, and what ever else he could think of. I would have never ever even went out for that first dinner with him if I had of known about his wife. For the past 2 months he calls me daily , comes by my office, sends flowers everything. I talk to him when I have to work realted but it is so hard. I love him. and I feel so stupid for loving him. I cant get him out of my head. Then tonight I was so stupid.He showed at here at my house and was upset and in tears saying he hated how he hurt me and I let him in. And he ended up having sex. I know I shoudlnt have. But it is so hard. I really do love him. And he did sound so real when he said he loved me. I dont know what to do. How can I make these feelings go away or should I just give in and let them happen.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (22 December 2009):
This man sounds like my ex husband. When we finally had a confrontation with the secretary and made him choose, he dumped her like a piece of garbage. She cried and cried and spewed out all the wonderful promises he had made to her and he told her right in front of me that you were nothing but a cheap trick. I lied to you. This is where you are headed. My suggestion is that you record him saying sweet sexy things to you while you are sounding reluctant and kind of trying to turn him down; maybe with your cellphone or hidden camera. Don't tell him ofcourse! Then you dump him. If he turns nasty and tries to get you fired or frustrates your work, then at least you have proof and can sue for harassment or wrongful dismissal. You never know what he will say about you to try convince his wife.
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reader, Noman Fayez  +, writes (22 December 2009):
It will be better for you to get rid from the relationship. He is a betrayer, who lies of both you and his wife. You are just a female figure to him. These types of female hunters are just animal not human being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): He lied to you and misused his authority over you to court you and conquer you. This is very clear cut. He's deceived you and his wife and daughter. You need to quit your job and never, ever see him again.
You should have done due diligence on his past relationships so as to bring out his "marriage" and daughter. Regardless, he has shown you he is a cad.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 He doesnt love you hes lusting after a younger chick what do you think will happen when your his wife age, Dont be that other women why the hell would you want to be with a guy that CHEATS what do you think he will do to you in time.
I just wrote a huge article here on weak men this man is weak, you need to take control of the situtation you owe it yo his wife atleast not to act on this mans proposals.
what do you think will come of this, besides the fact hes to old for you its just a lack of self control for the both of you, this guy is slime if he likes you so much he needs to divorce his wife or tell her he wants a chick on the side.
Im not agaisnt a man having more then one women i dont care but my problem is when their cheating and skeeming, Hugh Hefner atleast has the rite idea if your gonna live that kind of life have the balls to just put it out their
Tell your boss you have a bf you really need to start looking for a new job cuse hes not gonna let this go and hes gonna be a jerk if you turn him down you could try and use this as an opp to elivate your career but it depends on how far down the rabbit hole you wanns go and where you want your soul to end up, choice is your but so will be the consequences
But your is slime a weak man.
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