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writes:I am married but have been emailing a girl for quite some time. She is a stripper and probably only wants money but I enjoy the fantasy even though I know the age difference is probably 18 years with me being 54.It is torture when she won't see me even to talk outside of work. Should I just tell her we cannot be friends?My wife will not do hardly anything and I am so lonely. What are you suppose to do when nothing changes no matter what. I need companionship even if it is only emailing. Any ideas of what to do? I have tried the re-kindling stuff, no go for now anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI finally sent the stripper a final email today saying I would no longer be contacting her as I have been for a year or so. It makes me feel sad as I did enjoy the contact and her, but she is not for real at least for me. Mind games can be very destructive when you already have a problem. Thanks for the answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): I agree with lexilou that pursuing this stripper is not going to make you feel better or even help at all. I think it may make it all worse.
She is a total fantasy and not a healthy one.
I am sorry your marriage is not working well. But you are part of that marriage so have you made a conserted effort to change things?
You need to open up to your wife about how you feel. Or perhaps if this has happened you need perhaps to think about what is missing and needed. Get someone to talk to and get something other that hookers and strippers to occupy your time.
Many of us don't have exciting and awe inspiring lives, most of us just get up, go to work, come home and do all of the other normal and mundane things in life. Happiness and lonliness are your responsibilities as well.
The road your turning to is going to make your life an awful lot more soul destroying that fixing the one you already have!
Work out whats wrong, change it or make attempts to rectify it. If it does not work then at least you have used your time in a far more honourable and decent way!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 I dont think persuing anything with the stripper will make you feel any better, you will still feel this hole in your life.
I think there comes a time in life in some marriges/relationship where you either settle for companionship or move on. If you dont want to move on then find a new interest that you can do with or without your wife. Make some new friends and learn a new skill, dancing, painting, computers, a language, crown green bowling, whatever it takes, if it gets you out of the house, to give you something to do and think about it could give you something new to share with your wife when you come home and something else to talk and think about x x
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