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writes:My husband enjoys drinking beer and will have 3 cans most nights and more on the weekend. I have just discovered the supermarket has an offer on and he has went and bulk bought spending almost £350 on beer. I'm quite alarmed to the point of sick with worry. Im sure it will last a long time, maybe some are for friends, i havent asked yet. How should i address this one casually whilst voicing my true concern? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): OP - Are you concerned about his alcohol intake, which does seem a little high to be honest, or the fact that he is stocking up with £350 of booze in these tough economic times when it would be more sensible to keep money handy for an emergency? I guess if your heating boiler packs up and you cant afford to pay for it to be fixed is not going to be made much easier by having £350 of booze in stock. 3 cans a night plus more at weekends is a lot to drink. To some people that's average or not much but then far too many people drink far more than is health. I used to convince myself that I wasn't drinking much as all: just the odd pint at lunchtime (well two pints every weekday lunchtime), a couple of cans on a evening and then a few drinks on a weekend...okay about 10 cans worth. Add that lot up and it was no wonder by the age of 30 I had a big gut, was out of breath all the time and couldn't afford to put petrol in my car (or drive it most of the time for being over the limit pretty much 24/7)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (31 March 2013):
 It does not sound terrible to me either.. and note than I am basically a non drinker ( my average alcohol intake is 2 glasses of wine a MONTH, so hardly a lush ).
If he drinks 3 cans a day work days , and more on wekends, let's say that in average he drinks 120 cans a month. If he got advantage of some promotional offer, at,say, around 1 £ a can, like e.g. offers for 30 Carlsberg at 15 - 20 £, he got himself approx. 360 cans, so he stocked up for just 3 months and saved a bundle in the process. It does not sound weird or extravagant to me.
If you are not happy with his habit of 3 cans a day ,more on weekends, and you'd want him to drink less, or nothing at all- that's another story . But if you are accepting of his habit, I'd say that stocking up makes perfect sense .
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 March 2013):
 I agree with OldBag... while it seems like a lot, if it's going to keep till he uses all of it and he saved money, then it was a great Idea.
We stock up on Alcohol and such when it's on sale. If it's something we are going to use, then it's a wise choice.
Is your concern that he drinks 3 beers a night? I know for some that seems excessive but for my house that's nothing. Now if he escalates to 6 beers a night because he bought so much beer, then that may be an issue to be concerned about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): I don't think it's such a great idea to have 3 beers every nite. It's a lot of alcohol. He actually gets buzzed every nite. And even more on a weekends? How much more 6-7? I would worry about him turning into alcoholic, not as much as this money he spent on beer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): 3 cans a night and more at weekends? That's a fair amount to drink. Both in terms of his health and your finances.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (31 March 2013):
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If you can afford to spend £350 on beer and it saves money in the long run,he's made a good choice.
If however you have money troubles,or the sell-by date is in a couple of weeks,then you have problems.
Just talk to him,tell him your concerns,don't simmer away getting stressed, sort it out.Thats a lot of money and a lot of liquor plus he's your husband not some casual boyfriend so if this is going to cause problems you need it out in the open.
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 March 2013):
 If he just sticks to 3 cans then the beer will last for ages. But I thought beer had a shelf life?
Maybe ask him, with a nonchalant sort of disinterested voice, ''what is the shelf life of stored beer?'' if he does not know then suggest he google it or ask the manufacturer?
And for goodness sake don't let him consider on-selling on some of it, without getting advice, as I wonder if a license is needed to on-sell beer? (I am a complete non-drinker so I am not familiar with buying alcohol, even less on the legalities of selling it)
So although his aim may be to save money, the last few cans may not be as sparkling as he ones he consumes at the start.
However if he aims to make his home ''Party Central,'' then yes, ask him about his intentions re this purchase.
But, if his consumption of alcohol increases and he appears to be drinking more then there could be a problem. Particularly if his drinking increases expotentially, just because it is there, and available, then get some information on Alcoholics Anonymous and ensure you are well informed about how to address his drinking.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (31 March 2013):
Yes i can understand your concern and your in a very difficult situation.Would you consider your husband to be on the way to having a drink problem.Maybe it might be a good idea for you to go first to a counsellor and discuss his problem and asking the counsellor the best way you can handle the situation.One thing for sure you cant continue to be stressed out about it.You need help now.Kind Wishes Nora B.
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reader, R1 +, writes (31 March 2013):
 I don't think you need to tackle this casually. He just spent 350 pounds on alcohol!! Now is the time to ask him what the hell he is doing!
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