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writes: Is this very common, that a man in his forties becomes uninterested in sex and wife. Or does it always depends on the situation?Can a man be totally cold with his wife but get really horny in a new relationship?Is it ok, to be roommates and stay together when there is no more sex, or it is just going to be a dead end?Is it still better to be with the man you have children with, or does it not matter, because it is full misery.My man makes me sick, and even so, he is a good man, I cannot see myself with him, with no sexual interest in me. I think, eventually he will find love, and I will be an old ugly woman, who will regret no to leave. But I'm scared to death to leave because I dont know what will happen. And I'm so weak. So is there any advice for me, in this unexpected situation.I feel really depressed, and stuck. Also betrayed. I think, he is cruel to let me suffer. It would be better if he would tell me its over. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Yes sadly many marriage will end with no sex. That is a fact of life, and you must know, most marriage will go into the same place,of black hole. But ,if you want sex, leave,if you want a husband who is there ,when you are sick ,and need help ,stay. A sexy relationship isn't going to be your solid foundation.But,if sex is you thing, you have a choice to make.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): when it comes to rule of sex. best rule is that there is no rule. so it is normal that after 40s libido goes down in all humans - men and women. So this factor need not be taken as seriously and break you head on that. do not worry all that you mentioned. it is ok. there are various kinds of 6 billion people in world and each one different.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 No, this has nothing to do with you at all. Men in forties are still very horny. It's common for a man that age to be hyper critical about everything. He may be frustrated with his work, his life. He's not where he wants to be? So to avoid looking inside and see this failure, he's projecting that hurt onto you. This relationship is still salvageable. He has to learn to communicate his feelings better. Show him you appreciate him and always be thankful of what he does to the family.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Talk to him. If that doesn't work, look at your own morals and beliefs. Is it allowed for you, once married, to divorce?
But you need to talk to him. You have been married to him for years, if anyone can make it through this hard time with him it is you. You should know him that well. You think he is cruel, do you think he knows what he does to you? Do you think there is a solution? Do you have any love left for him?
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reader, clareloux  +, writes (20 July 2010):
men change as they get older he might just be going threw a rough patch
talk to him about how you feel
hope this helps xxx
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