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writes: hello. i was just wondering if it is normal for an independent woman to want a man to look after her and make her feel safe because this is what im after. i do everything myself and dont NEED a man. What im saying is it possible now society has changed so much that men havnt taken this womens lib to the extreme and completely given up on the traditional masculine feminine idea. my partner who i imagine as soon to be x is draining me he seems to be competing with me on the girly life.i mow the lawn, decorate, lug heavy stuff about and investigate noises in the night while he demands constant affection love and lives in a dream world. oppinions please thanx xxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): You are confused about yourself, I think. You think you are independent and dont need a man, but that is not the truth. You have let the women's lib ideas give you an illusion that you are independent and you dont need a man. Similarly what your man is seeing is also an illusion. He thinks you are one very tough woman who can do what many men do in this world. I cant say why he behaves like a girl. It may be becoz of women's lib stuff which sucked out the masculinity of men but it may be becoz he is naturally just like that. If you stop acting like one tough manly woman, guys may understand what you really want.
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 I hate to say this, but yea things are out of order. I don't care what anyone says, there is no such thing as 50/50 in a good marraige/relationship. ONE of you has to be the dominant. It doesn't matter which one, but someone has to take lead so to speak. In this case, he has given way to you but thats not what you want. You said it yourself. Don't get me wrong, marraiges/relationships are partnerships. When one is down the other lends support and vice versa. But think about it carefully, one of you is always gonna be more dominant than the other. Otherwise you will be butting heads and it wont work out anyway. So, find you someone who is more masculine and willing to take charge but I will tell you to be careful because you will probably always attract that same kind of passive man.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 this is out of order, tasks should be shared! tell him what you need from him, explain that he needs to take on some of the chores and he needs to make you feel more like a girl. x
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