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writes: I've recently met a guy who I've got on with very well and I know he wants us to become a couple. I like him very much, we have a lot in common, and we get on great. However, he works in a very low-paid job, and has no enthusiasm to progress beyond this. He's had this attitude for 7 years, since leaving school, and I find it such a turn off. I don't want a guy who's rich, but i think it's nice to know that if you want to be serious with someone, you could live happily and comfortably together.I have a degree and am currently just starting my career. I want to work hard for myself, and would find it embarrassing to have to tell friends and family that my boyfriend has such a lazy attitude to work.Am I being very shallow here? Should i keep away from involving myself any more with this guy as things are?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): Here's an answer I made on a post about a woman married to her man for X amount of years but feel embarrassed by him. Give it a good read and tell us your thoughts here...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-my-husband-but-im-embarrassed-by.html
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reader, andrea30 +, writes (26 September 2006):
I cant say for sure but I know exactly how you feel. I am dating a guy who is 32 years old and hasnt seemed to keep employment for longer than 6 months. He has every excuse in the book and I am getting fed it, I think his excused just make him seem extremely stupid. Now he wants to collect unemployment ! He is great with my children and all those domestic things. I have a good paying job with alot of opportunity and am constantly meeting affluent people but I am quite embarrassed somtimes. I am planning on endint the relationship and I think that you should to if you are looking for somone with ambition and drive. It is a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): I cant say for sure but I know exactly how you feel. I am dating a guy who is 32 years old and hasnt seemed to keep employment for longer than 6 months. He has every excuse in the book and I am getting fed it, I think his excused just make him seem extremely stupid. Now he wants to collect unemployment ! He is great with my children and all those domestic things. I have a good paying job with alot of opportunity and am constantly meeting affluent people but I am quite embarrassed somtimes. I am planning on endint the relationship and I think that you should to if you are looking for somone with ambition and drive. It is a big deal.
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reader, Kazanne101 +, writes (10 January 2006):
I don't believe you're being shallow, all you're pointing out is an incompatibility issue between you both. I too have had this same dilemna in the past and I decided to give it a go but found that his lack of motivation frustrated me to the point of arguments. I have a decent job, own home and car and if a man doesn't want to work hard to achieve this too then he's not the one for me. If this bothers you so much at this early stage is it going to resolve itself or get worse? Only you know the answer to this. I hope this helps.
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