A
male
age
,
anonymous
writes:I have a male cousin, whom I used to be close to. Things have changed but weren't too bad until our last visit. I was really offended because he hardly talked to me for the weekend that we were there. What was worse was he talked a LOT to my wife. (Nothing bad in their conversations, although I do have the impression that he's attracted to her.)My solution is to not to go back to their house. What would you do?
View related questions:
cousin Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies and maybe I was overreacting in my idea.
However, I forgot to add another data point:
in the last 6 months, this guy has sent my wife about 20 emails. In the same time period he has sent me zero.
It hurts because we used to be buddies. And yes, in the last 6 months I sent him one or two, which he ignored.
BTW 2nd replier, you are jumping to conclusions. I did not really sulk and my wife had a fine time and does not fault me.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2019): Gosh it does not take much to offend you. The two things that we ladies hate are lack of confidence in a man, and jealousy from our mate! Change your way of thinking or you will offend your wife! Your cousin was nice to your wife. As a host, that is what he is supposed to do! If he ignored your wife then you should get offended. You said their conversation was not anything bad! How much did you talk to your cousin? You see, you let your wife down, by leaving her to do all the talking with your cousin. Instead you were skulking around being anti social and trying to find fault. So what if your cousin thinks that your wife is attractive? Is your wife the only woman who you find attractive? Your wife, and you, and your cousin, all have integrity, to not act on attractions that cross boundries! Trust your wife! Go back to your cousins house again with your wife and enjoy your time together. Family is the most important thing there is! Only God Is Greater! Good luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 July 2019):
 He might be attracted to your wife and he might just have wanted to BE a good host.
Why not just JOIN in the conversations? Or talk to whomever else was there? Mingle and be social?
It seems WAY over the top to believe you now have to NEVER go back to his house, don't you think?
...............................
|
