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writes:Okay so i am fairly young and shouldn't really have relationship problems in the first place. But anyways, im only 15, i have a "Lover" i guess you would say that, he is 16, but i dated this guy before, and then we kind of just drifted and then didnt talk. Then all of a sudden about 4 months later he began to talk to me, and both of us being sexually attracted to each other, we started to kiss each other and hug and other high school couple things. but at one point my " Lover ", while we were skipping class, began to kiss me, and sorry if i get a bit to graphic.....but he stuck his hand down my pants and i think you can understand from there. But then that happened on a friday, and on saturday night i had been texting him, and then i said and i quote " You know...we've been acting like it, can we date again?" and then he told me that he would say yes but he might be gay...... and then i had to talk him out of an emotional disruption and he told me that he likes boys, but he also likes girls, just boys a little more....now at this point i was a little pissed, but hey i understand because i know how that feels trying to discover your sexuality, and it sucks a lot...but he tells me this and then we skip class again about two more times this week ( And sorry im doing bad things and posting them on a random site :/) and he stuck his hand in my pants the days we went out there, so i asked him out today, a week from the " I might be gay, so i dont know if i'll go out with you" situtation. But can someone please help me and let me know, should i wait it out and see if he really is gay, or does this guy just not want a relationship right now, but he wants a "Friend With Benefits"? and just a side note, i know im young, and young love is a stupid thing, but i really care about this guy, and he's really awesome not like any guy i've ever dated before, So number one sorry this is so long, number two i don't normally go to relationship advice sites, number three thank you for actually reading this because if i saw this i would probably just look at it and run away. :) So thank you! :D
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 I think it's best to stop the makeout sessions and other sessions with this boy unless you're fine with it not turning into anything else. He's not ready to date you, and he also seems at a loss for what gender he wants to date. He's just using you to experiment with, and not because he cares about you. If you're fine with than then go ahead and continue, but do not hope for more.
If you want more than this casual meet-ups, then stop seeing him this way until he is ready to make it official and actually be with you. Or you can find someone else who actually cares about you and wants you for who you are.
Right now he's just using you to experience things, and he doesn't know what he wants or if he is even interested in you besides the physical sessions you have. If it wasn't you he'd probably be doing it with some other girl that would let him Im afraid.
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