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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i have a boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months, we are long distance(live 5 hours/230 miles apart) and we met 6 months before we got together through a friend i went to see for a week, i was with someone else at the time, but that didn't stop me doing stuff with him and sleeping with him on the last night.everything was just perfect to begin with, but every couple of months or so on the phone he would seem a little sad, not tell me why, and i would get a bit insecure and ask him "are we ok?" and he would reply with "i don't know". the first time he said that to me i thought right there and then it was all over, but when these spells were over after a day or two, he'd ring me in the morning of a new day, and he'd be right as rain again.last february, about 2 weeks before valentines day, he was out in his local town, bumped into a girl mate(he claims he has lots of these, a couple he has slept with, a few he has tried to sleep with, and others he says are just friends) and she had a mate with her my boyfriend had never met before, and they all went to the pub, and my boyfriend and his friends friend seemed to hit it off straight away, from what i've found out they were kissing all afternoon, were planning to get together etc. and when he rang me when he got home, all he did was complain about the distance, so i asked the usual "are we ok?" he said "i don't know". the next morning i woke up to a message from him saying "i'm sorry but i can't do this anymore, but we can still be friends" at this point so much went through my head, i wanted to cry, i wanted to laugh, i wanted to get angry and i went right off my food, we still spoke occasionally, but not as much as we did, then a week later he came running back to me, i know, i shouldn't have let him back in, but that love for him was still there in the bottom of my heart, apparently this girl totally blew him off, and that's why he came running back to me.so life went on, with a few of the usual episodes - "i'm sad" "are we ok?" "i don't know" *boyfriend wakes up one morning right as rain* everythings fine again - but the most recent one, has been the most ongoing, it's still happening now, and has been for the last 3 or 4 days, but upon him saying "i'm sad" i decided to say "you get like this alot" to which he replied "yeah i'm thinking about my ex, because i've lost my job, and she was the reason i lost my last job" so i said the usual "are we ok?" but this time he said "yeah we're fine" so now i'm really confused and sort of stuck in limbo, as to what he's gonna do...also he claims to have so many friends(both male and female) who he claims that love him all so much, yet i have found out from various sources that some of them infact don't like him at all, and others only see him as an aquaintance, yet upon asking him about this, he just makes excuses for them...what is this guy playing at?! i can't handle having my emotions played like this, but that love for him is so strong due to him making a good impression in those first few months... help!
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (29 January 2012):
 he sounds like a show off. Like he wants everyone to love him!!
I'd bin him.
Don't ever let any man play with your emotions.
I know you like him and it's very hard to switch off feelings, however he's playing you.
You're miles away. so he sleeps with girls where he lives, and then still has you to text at the end of the night.
BIN HIM.
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 January 2012):
 Well you know first hand he'd finish with you when a better offer comes along so what exactly is it that you see in him?
He constantly had you on edge as to whether he wants to be with you or not, it just seems like you're a safe bet until he finds somebody better.
Cut contact and find a boyfriend that lives nearby so it's an actual relationship.
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