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writes: My boyfriend and I are long distance and are on a break, I want him back desperately, what do I do? He wants to think over our long term future until end Jan but I think if I give him loads of space he will just forget about me. We spoke last sun and he says he hasnt come to any conculsion in the week we have been apart. Please someone tell me what to do I love him and dont want to have to move on, even though all my friends are telling me it is over.
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (14 December 2006):
 Hi Anon, you have to let him come to a decision on his own and that means stepping back and giving him the space he needs. i realise that this is hard but if you do this then he will think more favourably of you. long distance relationships are not easy at the best of times. i was in one a while ago and we decided to split in the end cos it was too hard. He wont forget about you if he loves you and it may even make him realise how much he misses you. But as 'Want2 die' said, make it clear that you wont wait around for ever. you do have a life and you want to live it not wait around indefinitely for him. go out and have fun with your mates and let him see that while you miss him and love him, you need to know his decision after xmas. hope it works outx
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reader, want2die +, writes (14 December 2006):
 Give him some more time, see if he hangs around and comes back to you. Maybe he does need some time to think about it.
Make it clear to him that you want a decision by a certain time , and you wont be around after that, He should know that you are not going to be around waiting for him all your life .. (Even though you might be :-) ) That will prompt him to take a decision and get along with it or leave it.
If he loves you as much as you love him, he will come back to you..If he doesnt , maybe you deserve somebody better
Good luck ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I do! But as he said, once we'd had that conversation there was no point carrying on as usual and trying to pretend everything was fine, only to have a break after Christmas.
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reader, Missie +, writes (14 December 2006):
hi, when i moved to university 160miles away from my bf, i was very insecure about our future, he reassured me that it would be okey, we'd b fine all that mattered was our strong love. I believed him. Two weeks later, he called to say he couldnt cope. I'm sorry, I kno people are different but maybe its best you start considering life without him, slowly, that way u'll be ready for if it fails to work. Fingers crossed your love is stronger than ours was. ps i think its a bit selfish of him to take a break during xmas dont you?
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