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writes: I had a child very young, and later married the mother. I truly do love her; I always have. In November 2005 she left me, and got together with my best friend. She later told me that she only went to him for help with us (with our problems) because he was like a brother to me, but he made advances and in her low state she fell. Of course things did not work between them; he left her. She was trying to change him to be like me, and he caught on. They broke up in May, and since then we have hooked up a lot. She has been an emotional wreck because he wasnt what she thought he was, and because how she has wronged me. Now she wants me in her life, and wants to work toward a relationship again. The only problem is she wants to be only friends first. My life has been a freakin train wreck for over year because of her, and now she wants what!!! I was so depressed over herthat I was under psychiatric care. She was everything to me, but this great women that I put so highly on a pedestal has fallen. I cannot stop thinking of everything that has happened; I haven't for over a year. I suggested that we go to counseling together, but she doesnt want to yet. Our relationship spanned 8 years, and she is the only woman that I have ever loved. I cant stop loving her; I even consuled her when my supposed friend left her. I need to get over her but I can't. I have been with many other women (dated and one nighters), and I cant get over her. I need to, but I have tried everything (nothing works).I just want to start over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): I'm so sorry to hear of the terrible time you have had. I can understand how you feel, my stomach turns over for you but I don't think i could of had her back. You really love her and she has hurt you so much. If you two are going to be with each other in the future then i think you both need to seek some sort of relationship counselling. At first you must take things slow and become friends and work it out from there. It won't be easy but the future is up to you. If you leave her can you live without her? Not easy.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 You are still in love with this woman. Assuming that he is aware of her impact on your life hence why she wants to make sure you are not the rebound guy again?
Sorry to hear that you have been a wreck for such a long time. Be strong and starting as friends is the wise thing to do. Take it slow and be sure that you both can work things out before you get to involved again and get hurt.
Good luck xxx
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