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writes: Is it possible for a 23 year old guy who has professed to be bi (has been with 7 women and 9 guys) survive in a committed monogamous relationship with a woman (which he started)? He stopped me in my tracks when I brought this up to him and said, "I want this to work and everything will be fine, you have no reason to worry, it was easier and it was just sex." Should I be worried? Please post your comments! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Hi! Thanks for your reply to my post! Your honesty means a lot to me. : )
He started an actual committed relationship with me (female) when I found out by accident that he was bi, before he could tell me, he said he almost did the night before. Eh… : \ He came clean, keep reading…
Yes, I agree, I too would have liked for him to be the one to tell me first. I don’t think the shock would have been any less though. I know he wasn’t going to keep it from me. He is an honest guy. He was open and honest about explaining things to me without hesitation. No fumbled speech, stuttering or pausing. Ok, problem though, and you tell me… he’s still “bi”. I guess that’s good in a way because that means he’s not changing things because of me? He said he’d consider not dating any more guys if we ever broke up, for moral and religious reasons. Tells me it’s a huge self-esteem issue? He did say that while we’re together, he’s only with me and he’s committed to our continued relationship. I’m still scared to death.
Yes, he’s only 23, I’m 32. Hope that doesn’t make me seem like I have issues. I’m not his sugar mama, he takes more care of me than I do him!!! He found me through the Christian group and started a relationship with me and I fell in love with his candidness, care and twinkle in his eye when he looked at me. Uh…though since he’s still in the midst of dating women and men, that he hasn’t made any decision to go one way or another. Can someone live bi?
Thanks again! Hope to hear from you soon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Do you mean he has started a committed monogamous relationship with a woman, or that he started a CONVERSATION about such a relationship with you? You did say you brought it up, so I'm not clear on how this got started off.
It would probably be better if HE had been the one to initiate the conversation with no prompting from you. Might give you some idea as to where he's going with this.
He IS only 23, but has been with 7 women and 9 men "for sex only." That doesn't augur too well for his ability to commit to one monogamous relationship, right off hand.
I'd be very wary of this one, if I were in your shoes, and would basically expect very little.......but your call.
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