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writes:I recently discoverd im gay (im female and 19 years old)and have strong feelins for a friend but im not sure if she feels the same. Shes also gay only a few years older. we text everyday some days loads but then other days she goes wierd. she knows i like her but she keeps givin off mixed signals few examples are her sayin she never sed she didnt liek me in that way she was just seein someone when she said that and feelings change, then next minute its like she dont like me n will say wer just friends. also she always likes to talk dirty in texts but why is this if she doesnt like me??? any advice on this would be really appreciated as i am so confused with it all and my heads messed up with what i should do and dont really have anyone to talk to bout this as the main person i tell things to is the mate im talkin bout here. cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): To be honest at the moment it sounds like she really cares about you as a friend and is being flirty cos. she is attracted to you however it may end there and she just may want a casual bit of a laugh and of course she wouldn’t know she was hurting you because you are “friends”,
This is no different to any other relationship some people really do just like the chase, And she may have a relationship lined up and she’s keeping you on the backburner but I would show her in a nice subtle way that this wont be tolerated she says she wants a friendship with you tell her dirty texts are out because if your just her friend it will play with your feelings,
It maybe would be worth you making some new friends too, So you can be busy sometimes and keep a bit of mystery in this friendship, you can find a group to maybe join that lets you mix with other people of all sexuality’s ,
That way you will feel you have more people to talk too about you problems just a listening ear, and you will feel less dependent on your friend for company and too tell all your troubles to.
Chances are then your confidence will increase and you will have plenty of people to go out and have fun with,
Take care
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reader, raq +, writes (6 July 2007):
 Hi ya, i think quite a lot of us at one time or another, do get strong feelings for our closest budds. Is it worth risking your friendship for? if it was going to happen it would have by now. Count your blessings you have a good mate. What if all goes terribly wrong and you lose her for good? weigh up the pros and cons. Goog luck sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): stop pussyfooting around and ask her directly, whatv you really got to lose? if you think she likes you too then chances are she does; it sounds like it. just ask her already
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