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writes:hi im a gay female new to the site and question is about long distance relationships;we been seeing eachother once a month for 6 months, been on holiday together and both say 'i love you' however i feel too lonely and pushed aside as her life is so much busier than mine, we do text and talk everyday but its not enough for me, and that makes me feel selfish. we are both comitmophobes and she has a boyfriend she cant leave who knows about me and is happy with it. so need help on handling the jealousy and being apart plz
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2012): You need to actually talk about where you stand. She has a bf and he is happy with you both being together, somehow I doubt that. Of course your jealous, she is going home to her bf and your alone waiting around for her to decide when you can be important to her. See where this is heading, because my guess is her bf thinks your just a friend, and for her she is having her cake and eating it too. You can't live like this and trust me it will only get worst because deep inside you know this isn't the way love is, and you know that you deserve so much better than being someone's option.
I am sorry i know you don't want to hear this, but it is honestly how I see it. Good luck.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (27 March 2012):
 Her BF knows about you and is happy with it? hmmmmm sweetpea I am going to say something that may upset you a little..... sounds like she has her cake and is eating it too!. You have every right to be jealous, if she is going home every nigh to her BF? Are you sure the BF knows that you are together or is he thinking you are just a friend? I would sit down with her and see exactly where your relationship is heading and what she is willing to put on the table. It makes not sense to just be waiting around .. It will be a tough conversation but one I think you need to have.
I wish you the best of luck!
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